Do I attend party held at my ex's house?
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|Mon, 08-05-2013 - 11:54am|
It's been 3 months since my ex dumped me. It was a bad ending to our relationship. After a short but intense relationship, the quick version is he yelled insults at me as reasons for making him end our relationship. He told me I'm not comfortable in my own skin, I'm not a confident person, I don't know who I am, and that no has has ever said these things to me before but he's doing it for my own good even though it hurts. He told me to go find myself and that it will serve me well. Needless to say I didn't talk to him for 3 months after that. This weekend I attended a social event with a friend and he was also there. It was civil between us and at one point he joked and said that I can totally kick him.
Later in the evening the host of the event, who had also expressed interest in me (though I'm not interested) told everyone that I really liked his party but where can he have another one. First I was shocked that the host put me on the spot. Then my ex offered his house. My friend tells me she will only go if I'm going. I don't know how I feel about returning to his house where I spent so much time with him. I even designed his place so to see my work infront of me in a home that we discussed I would also be living in might be hard. I know where the teas and salt is kept in the kitchen and where the vacuum is stored. I know the layout of the house and the memories of being there.
Do I overcome this fear and attend the party with my friend? Or will I look like a creepy ex-girlfriend who keeps showing up? That being said, the guy who is interested in me might come on to me at the party that will make me uncomfortable. And I know my ex's former fling is also going to be there.