Do I call or wait?

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Do I call or wait?
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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 11:52am

I met this guy online we met for drinks one night, and then went out for dinner and drinks the next weekend. On the date he asked me to go out again sometime, blah blah blah. That was almost two weeks ago. I emailed him the a couple days after the date, and he returned my email the next day telling me that he was busy the coming weekend but if I wasn't busy the next (this coming) weekend did I want to hang out again, and that he would call me. I then returned his email and it was kind of blah blah but I didn't say anything about hanging out just that I would talk to him soon.

My question is it's now Wednesday do I call him tonight if he doesn't call me, or let it go?

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 1:55pm

Hate to be a downer but honestly, if he were really intent on going on a second date, he would be pursuing you a bit more than what he is. Not much more to say than that. If you still want to try again, make it clear that you want to go out and then leave it at that. If he does not respond, do not run after him.


Keep us posted...

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 2:05pm
We actually have been out twice. I should have made that clearer. But I do agree.
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 4:56pm
Since you both agreed to hang out this weekend, I'd send him a breezy e-mail asking him how his crazy week is going and that if he's up to hang out this weekend, day, time and place. Wait to see. If he's not answered by Friday, mke your own plans.


Edited 4/25/2007 4:57 pm ET by lightandbright
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 04-25-2007 - 5:50pm
You didn't indicate you wanted to see him in the reply to his email so you may need to call him if you assume you are going out.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 7:57am

In the beginning it is kind of nice to be pursued. As long as he knows you're interested, do want to see him, let him make a specific suggestion

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Tue, 05-01-2007 - 2:10pm
He actually did call me, but not until Saturday night, and I was already gone. I ended up calling him back the next day but still haven't heard back.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 8:18pm
Yes, totally, he should be coming after you and if he's not - well, you won't be sitting around waiting for him
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