Do I go?

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Do I go?
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Thu, 09-08-2005 - 10:19pm
Hi,
What should I do? A guy I've been casually dating asked me last Friday for dinner plans tomorrow night(friday night). I haven't heard from him all week. A time and a place were not confirmed but am I supposed to just wait till tomorrow to see if he calls me?
Help!!
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Registered: 11-24-2004
In reply to: riese2002
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 10:41pm
Yes, I would wait and see if he calls, but if you haven't heard from him by 7:00, I would just go out with my friends. I'm not sure I would still go, if he called me in the late afternoon! I would probably say, "I didn't hear from you all week, I didn't think we were still on!"

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Registered: 10-16-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 12:34am

It would be interesting to see if he remembers the dinner plans to begin with! (if you could wait for him to call!) He took care enough in advance to plan a dinner night a week away, but hasn't taken care to let you know when and where. Perhaps he doesn't know either? Perhaps he is just a really casual person and thought you both could decide together when you both talk next or when you both meet. Did he talk about dinner casually, or like he really meant it?

I wouldn't see any harm in calling him....instead of waiting all day long, and getting anxious about getting a call from him and worrying about your own individual plans and how it depends on him now. Just not worth all that anxiety. Just call him. See what he says. If you want you could wait until he brings it up himself or ask it directly whether the dinner date's still on.

or

you could wait for him to contact you. but not after a point. have ur own plans ready.

And let him know exactly what you prefer next time plans are made. so he knows.

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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 8:38am
Hmmm, a tough one. I would be thinking that he has forgotten about the plans. I hate to leave things until last minute and much prefer to plan ahead. If he doesn't call by afternoon today, I would make my own plans and then just explain to him that since you didnt hear from him for a FULL week, you thought he had forgotten about it. OR...you could just give him a call yourself and ask what's up as you would like to make your own plans if the plans for tonight are off. I am meeting with my ex-boyfriend for dinner/drinks tonight and we made plans last week but he also called earlier this week to confirm.
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Registered: 04-22-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 4:03pm
Still no call guys, and it's 4pm. If he calls me i'm just going to say that I haven't heard from you all week and I made other plans. But, what if he says you could've called me? I don't want to because I feel like i've been the chaser.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: riese2002
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 4:45pm
That's always a sticky one - did he specifically say "I'll call you later in the week to confirm" or did you two just discuss that you would get together and generally say that you would talk later in the week? If it is the second, you don't have as strong of a leg to stand on because he probably will say, "Well, you could've called me." Regardless, just say that you've been really busy with things and thought he was going to call you to set things up so when he didn't you made other plans (you can say things like that even if it isn't COMPLETELY true!) :-)

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Registered: 08-26-2005
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 09-10-2005 - 9:10pm
Sorry, I'm joining the conversation late. Did he ever call you and take you out?
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Registered: 04-22-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 6:01pm
Hi,
Thanks for asking! We ended up going for dinner sat night. He called me at 8 on Friday night and told me that he thought I could go either Fri or Sat. I gave him a piece of my mind and he apologized. He said that there was no excuse. We had a great night last night. We went for a great dinner. I really have so much fun with him. We have been casually hanging out for the past 2 and a half months. I would like to be with him exclusively but I know he isn't ready. Therefore I am still going on dates with other guys. Unfortunately I haven't like any of the guys as much as I do him.
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Registered: 05-24-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 6:13pm
That is always the way:( The guy you like never returns your feelings! But good for you...nice the way you have not obsessed over him and date other guys :)
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Registered: 11-24-2004
In reply to: riese2002
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 10:07pm
Riese,
I'm so glad you had your date. Too bad he doesn't want a real relationship right now. But maybe he will turn around soon and realize you are a good catch and a relationship can only be a good thing. You are doing the right thing by dating other guys and not sitting alone by the phone on weekends.

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