Do I keep trying or move on?

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Registered: 11-29-2004
Do I keep trying or move on?
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Mon, 11-29-2004 - 7:01pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We have lived with each other for 1, we even decided to get married in 2 years. He suddenly moved out 3 weeks ago, stating that we have been fighting for 3 months and that he needed space. He said we were going to take a break from each other and not break up. One week later, I called him and made him talk to me. He said he's been thinking and decided that he wanted to break up. I've tried to express to him how much I love him and he says he doesn't want to talk about the relationship anymore. I talked to him the other day and told him I didn't know what to do. He told me to jsut move on that he couldn't give me a time we could try it again or a gurantee that we would even get back together. He came over last night and said he missed me and he was thinking that we could eventually buy a house this summer. I talked to him tonight and he got all mad and said 'see we can't even get along on the phone', then said he was hanging up. I called back to apologize and he said that any little thing is setting him off right now, but he doesn't want to talk about it. He also stated he wasn't going anywhere, but when I called to ask him an important question about a bill, his roomated stated that he wasn't there and didn't know where he was. What should I do. He's the one, but I just am so confused about his actions. Help please.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-29-2004 - 8:30pm

Please, stop calling him. You're just making yourself look worse and worse in his eyes every time you contact him.

He's not "the one" for you if he isn't sure YOU are the one for him (not that I believe in "the one" anyway...there are *plenty* of people who could be right for you, but he's NOT one of them!)

Sheri

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 11-29-2004 - 10:26pm
He is definitely not treating you correctly. I don't care how you provoke him (which isn't necessarily true but what he's accusing you of) after all this time together he's acting like a child and treating you with lack of respect. Certainly if he owes money on a bill he has no right to shirk his responsibilities.

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