Do I need to call him?

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Registered: 04-12-2004
Do I need to call him?
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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 3:05pm

Hi everyone,
I have a question for you specially for men. I have been dating a guy for three months and everything was going well until last week. I haven't heard from him for over a week. He usually call or e-mail every second day or third. Last time we were together he said see you next week. I don't know what happened so my question is "Do I need to call him say hi and to know if everything is fine with him?" I am like an old fashion woman I always wait until man calls me sometimes it is not good.

Thank you.
Rube.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 3:41pm

He's probably scratching his head trying to figure out why he is doing all the calling and date planning.

Yes, you need to call him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-10-2003
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 6:52pm
I agree, in the beginning I think it's good to let him do the calling so you can get a clear picture if he's interested or not. But once you've been together a while, it should be more mutual... my 2cents
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Registered: 05-03-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 11:29am
There is no good reason not to call him. Worst case scenario, he doesn't return your call, and all you've lost is a few minutes of your time. If you get caught up in "the rules" you may miss out on a good thing...if he doesn't respond, he wasn't the one for you, but at least you'll know you tried, and you won't have to play the "what-if" game.
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Registered: 04-12-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 11:56am

Hi there,
Thanks for taking the time to help me out here. I did called him and he said he was busy, that is why he didn't call. I don't know if that was the reasone though. So wait and see.

Rube.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 12:01pm

I'm sorry if I have you confused with another poster...but I am thinking that his behavior in not calling might be tied to you asking him about why he doesn't call you instead of emailing you, etc.

I think he is comfortable with a part-time relationship that doesn't progress beyond where it is now. You're starting to show signs that you want the relationship to progress (perfectly reasonable, IMO!). But if he doesn't want anything more than what you have now, he might be backing off to "scare" you into accepting what he's offering.

Sheri