do i send a letter

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2003
do i send a letter
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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 5:55pm
Recently i was involved in a passionate relationship, after he intiated "the talk" and we decided to become more serious, he changed his mind, the only excuses were just that weak excuses, he left me confused and very hurt and i really didnt get to say what i wanted to say. I havent slept since, with these unsaid thoughts racing round and round my head. I have written them down and have almost decided to send him them, not because i think it will change his mind, but to give me peace of mind that i have had my say, i know he most likely wont read them. Is this an unwise, immature thing to do?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 6:05pm
By all means, write down how you feel. Should you send it? No. There will be nothing gained by *having the last word*- and that's what it would be. It will be better for you if you can react like it's not the end of your world that you broke up. But do get those thoughts out, and even talk it out with a girlfriend. But just write him off as the coward he is, and realize that it's HIS loss to give you up.

Be strong. You will find someone who is worth your time.

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 6:22pm
It's so awful not to have "closure" with the unsaid things, BUT you can give yourself closure by thinking that you were lucky in not getting involved with a man who is just weak excuses, a man who said something and did another, a man who doesn't consider others feelings but his, a selfic man..a man without character. That's your closure and try to move on.