Do I tell?

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Registered: 09-07-2005
Do I tell?
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Mon, 11-27-2006 - 1:06pm

I'll try to keep this short.

I had a long distance relationship with a guy for two years and we just broke up 5 weeks ago. One week later we agreed it would be nice to see each other one last time so he bought a ticket to come over for Thanksgiving weekend. In the meantime things got really bad between us, we broke up only because the distance got too difficult. We were at the point of getting engaged and instead he took a new job where we wouldn't be able to talk during the week and everything just fell apart, even though we still loved each other.

Anyway, I ended up hanging out with my best friend a lot, which also meant we hung out with her bf and his best friend, C, a lot. So not thinking much about it and since I was technically single, we hooked up the weekend before my ex came over and hung out the following few days, he threw the "since I am seeing you" on me the night before he left for England for 5 days. We both knew my ex was coming over so he said let's not have "the conversation" until after I see him.

So my ex stayed three days and we patched things up. Since things were just so normal between us, we did end up sleeping together, but just once which is so not like us and it was the second day in. It was more because we were both sleeping in the same bed and for a moment everything was like it used to be so we had sex. It wasn't like passionate break-up or make-up sex, it was just comfort sex and didn't really last very long. He asked me the last day if I have been seeing anyone else, or slept with anyone, I said no purely because I didn't want to hurt his feelings, there was no point (not for STD's either), we had already broken up.

My question is this, do I tell the new guy if he asks, do you think he would understand? I don't want this to get in the way. My ex and I are clearly over for now, it was just nice to see each other. I wanted to make sure things were definitely over which I know doesn't mean I had to sleep with him, but I did.

I did realize how much I like C though, so in your best opinion, should I tell him ig he asks? Thanks.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
In reply to: tinkerbellevi
Tue, 11-28-2006 - 8:25am
The short answer, I'd keep my mouth shut. Tell C that you enjoyed seeing your ex but it is over and now it is for you to move on. Hopefully a direct question about sexual intercourse won't occur.
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Registered: 11-27-2006
In reply to: tinkerbellevi
Tue, 11-28-2006 - 12:04pm
Don't tell. Believe me don't tell.