Do promiscuous women have feelings?

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Do promiscuous women have feelings?
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Mon, 07-05-2004 - 5:26pm
Do women who bed hop have feelings? Are they proud of themselves?

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 6:22pm
Of course they have feelings. That's a no brainer.

Women that bed hop the majority of them do not do it as conquests on their bedpost, although I suspect there are some that do.

If you ask a lot of women who are "promiscuous" you usually can find that this is the only way they feel they can be loved by guys. Also, many are sexually abused. My best friend was very promiscuous growing up but she was also sexually abused by her father as a child.

I hazard to guess that women who have sex with many partners, the majority don't understand that you don't have to sleep with someone to get them to love you or they were abused and only a small portion, maybe 20% do it to put notches on their bedposts.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 6:30pm
Well, do promiscuous men have feelings?

Erin

quickblade14@hotmail.com

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 6:43pm
Well women are built and run off emotions. If a women is labeled a slut, she will be hurt emotionally almost destructive to her ego. If a man, is labeled a slut, he wouldnt care. He'd be considered a pimp or player by his friends. It's a boost in a mans ego as a negative in a womens
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 7:08pm
So what is your point in all this? I mean, none of it is new. All humans have feelings. It's just that there are double standards for women and men and women deal with emotional things differently because that's how we were made.

Michelle

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 7:26pm
my point is that i see alot of women who just want ONS = one night stands

its like they dont have feelings for themselves or the guy. It's just....screw me and leave without any attachment. i guess for these women, it's ok, but too guys it's not. What guy wants an LTR with a slut?
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Registered: 06-13-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 7:27pm
To me it shows a total lack of any self esteem. I guess there are probably women out there that just plain enjoy sex---but I would say a majority of them don't feel good about themselves at all. (no matter what reason is behind their bed hopping.)
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Mon, 07-05-2004 - 10:48pm
The way to tell a persons future is focus on their past.For example - once a cheater, always a cheater, once a slut, always a slut.This is a proven fact. Takes years and years for someone to "try" and change their lifestyle, most of the time failing, because of their peers. Women are always looking for the BBD = big better deal, regardless of how their current relationship is doing.

Of course.....The mans job is to get into a womens panties. It's the womens job to start the relationship. I've noticed alot of women who have a ONS will try and turn this into a relationship to cover up the label. The man only wanted sex and thats it. He's done with you, and he's moving on. (keep in mind, these are the barflys and club women) If a women is into ONS, expect to be treated like trash, and that's what he'll do. A women has put herself in this position so she deserves the treatment. You cant blame the guy, though she will blame him because she wont take on the responsibility. I just refuse to be in a relationship with a slut or reformed slut. I will be rude to her, when i find out

i found this article that says it all..........check it out

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/5359395/site/newsweek/


Edited 7/5/2004 10:58 pm ET ET by djrazr

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 1:36am
I dont have a problem meeting women. Its just that they put on this front being fake, and not real. They try and start a relationship with me. All the women i come in contact with want a relationship with me, and dont wanna be friends - dam. I then find out over time, because a tiger will show its stripes, that they have cheated numerous times and are promiscuous about sex which are not good qualities i seek in women. It takes time for them to show their true colors, and i when i find out, i dump them instantly. I dont need the drama
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 9:07am
I think it depends on the woman.

I have a friend (sort of) who I consider rather promiscuous. She picks up guys

in bars all the time. She sleeps with them that night, gives them her number, and 99%

of them never call her. She sometimes feels hurt, other times she doesn't care at all.

She explained to me recently that she hadn't had a boyfriend in a long time and it feels

good to be desired, or feel like someone wants you. To her it is worth it to feel good

about herself for one night.

She is starting to realize this is not how she is going to meet her "mr right"

but she has yet to stop. A couple of us challenged her to go 60 days or 2 months without

sex. She couldn't do it, I think she made it a whole 6 weeks or so.

Do I think she has good self esteem, hell no. But I try not to be judgmental.



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 10:15am
A woman that lacks self-esteem, self-respect, self-responsibility and self-worth would be "upset" at being termed a slut for having physically gratifying only sex. But a woman that possessed all those things and thus is a complete individual isn't overly concerned with the "opinions" of other people.

Your rationalization that a man would be called a stud by his peers and thus wouldn't have emotional negativity as a result of casual sex....means that men are JUST as emotionally driven as women and becuase the emotional result would be positive because the comment would be positive - he'd "driven to have casual sex to get the approval of others."

Erin

quickblade14@hotmail.com

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