Do you find relationships to be seasonal

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Do you find relationships to be seasonal
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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 9:07am

What I mean by this is... a few of my guy friends have told me that during the warm summer months, they're not looking to settle down because there's so many opportunities out there. Yet, when the cooler weather comes they feel men are more apt to settle down with one woman.


What do you think? Would like both the male and female perspective.


*cross-posted on online dating*

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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 10:14am
I definely think there's less eye candy out there in the winter. Men being what they are don't get distracted as easily. There's also probably somewhat of a hibernation instinct, batton down 'til spring in one's den, preferably with someone else. So, yes, I think it does make some difference but I think it's mainly a matter of convenience and has little to do with real feelings when men are that way. Just my two cents.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 11:32am

Dear ck-bklynchik...

First...PG likes YOU a lot and also enjoys contributing to this board.

Second...I agree with your assessment of more 'prospective relationship possibilities' during the warmer months...instead of December, January, February and early March! Since MOST OF US take our vacation(s) in late Spring, Summer or early Autumn...this puts us 'in touch' (no pun intended) with MORE PEOPLE!

Personally...I like the security of having someone "steady" or "consistant" in my life during the entire year! Here are a few reasons:

1. To share a bottle of wine...or perhaps a warm beverage?
2. To attend a concert or explore an upcoming event that we mutually like.
3. To have someone who enjoys spending a frigid winter night watching a classic movie...or trying to beat me at a game of SCRABBLE, MONOPOLY or some other 'board game?'
4. To have a partner who knows the meaning of the words: 'cuddling', 'love' and 'body warmth'...and doesn't have a problem showing (or displaying) any of these wonderful traits!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Tue, 08-30-2005 - 4:36pm
Wow, PG, those are some really heartwarming reasons!
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Tue, 08-30-2005 - 7:40pm
Most people like to have someone to share the holidays with (even if it's the wrong person). I've seen plenty of post new year's breakups.

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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 7:49am
Yes I do think relationships are seasonal. When you think about it, why places like South Beach and Rio are swarming with singles, it is because there are things (not the gorgeous beaches!!!) to look at year round. When the cold weather and the holidays come around, it is always nice to have someone to cuddle up to and spend time with and "share". The cold weather makes going out (clubs/bars) more bothersome because you have to layer up with the clothes, huge jackets, snow boots etc, and people are less likely to go out in cold weather. Summer here is NY is great, can go to the city and wear practically nothing as it is warm. Winter comes along though...hrrrr, can rarely get me out into the cold weather to hit the clubs...and also to find singles.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 3:13pm
I agree that in summer the surf's up and hormones run high. But there are guys who want a commitment no matter what the season.
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