Does age really matter

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Does age really matter
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Sun, 05-07-2006 - 11:03pm

I am in my late, late 20's and I am attracted to a guy who is 9 years younger than me. I have known him since he was 16. He is a great person. He has a great personality. He's fun to be with. He's well liked by many people. I think he is great and I want him to be my husband and father of my children. I dont know if I will ever met a guy like him. I havent seen him much over the years because we both have different lives. It has to do with the age difference. Evertime I see him I cant help thinking that I would love to be his wife. I know he would treat me good. That is if he's interested in dating me. I just might soon go and find out. But he is also 9 years younger than me. I have to keep telling myself how young he really is. Hes from a good family. He is level headed. He is mature for his age. What I want to know is: Does age really matter? What is the deal with dating people who are alot younger or older? I would like to know what the rest of the world thinks. Is it ok?
Please give me some input.

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 1:07am

So, you've KNOWN him since he was 16 but you don't really KNOW him, because you two have such different lives, but you're fixated on marrying this guy?


I think you like the IDEA of him, more than who he really is.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 7:58am

summer200527...

Pianoguy doesn't want to shatter your future dream of a "happily ever after" existence with this gentleman....but let's get serious!

Aren't you 'reading more into the relationship' than he is?

Has he ever told you that he loved you...or see a future for the 2 of you? You might want to have his children, but isn't a better idea to find out if the two of you are really compatible WITH EACH OTHER before adding a few more 'rugrats' to the planet?

Based on what you've written in your post...there seems to be more speculation (on your part) about the man...than there is fact??

Pianoguy

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 8:09am

I just wanted to let you know that I am not fixated on marrying this guy. But he do have the qualities that I am looking for in a husband. I am not living in a fairy tale. I am in reality. I just wanted to know what others think about the whole age thing. It seems to be more and more people getting together with huge age gaps. I know a girl who was in the same sisuation. She knew this guy from a young age. She is 5 years older than me and the guy who she is dating now was only 19 when they got together. They are living happly together. That would be a 13 years age difference.

Thanks for your two cents. Thats what I was looing for.

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Registered: 12-07-2005
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 9:38am
hmm, well the guy that i'm dating will be 23 in 2 weeks and i'm 27. I was a little leery about the age difference, sometimes still am, but it really hasnt been noticeable. He seems a little older than he is, i look and act a little younger. But 29 and 20 does seem like kind of a large difference in terms of settling down as life partners dont you think? I could see if you guys had been together for a while and were truly in love, but does this guy know your feelings towards him? I can see you two being attracted to each other, but this day in age what 20 year old is ready to get married and have kids? I'm a 27 year old woman and i'm not even ready to get married...I know it sounds like you do like this guy, but it might be in your best interest to find someone is ready to give you what you need...sooner than the 20 year old can
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 11:57am

It can work - relationships with age differences do happen.