Does anyone really date anymore?
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|Fri, 01-04-2013 - 3:56pm|
I have started to make an effort to date again since getting a divorce, but I have discovered that after a few "dates" all these men want to do is have sex. What I mean is, they don't want to go anywhere, do anything, just get together for some naked time and that's that. Some don't even bother with the pretense of dating, just ask out right if I'll just have sex, though they don't say it so nicely, some including adorable photos of their junk, I guess to entice me (gross!!!). Others approach me or my friend, who is also single, and very pretty, and ask one of us out, start talking to us a little, and then ask if the other will consent to having a 3some!!!! We are really depressed by all of this and seriously wondering what kind of image we are projecting here. Some of these men we've met through mutual friends on Facebook, where we have tons of photos of our kids and us, none of them very sexy or anything, since our kids are our "friends", and others we've met when we go to the club to dance, on online dating sites, or work. No, we're not wearing super slutty clothes, nor are we drinking a lot, we just both love to go out and dance and have fun. Last time I checked, I wasn't ugly, overweight, or socially inappropriate, so I'm seriously lost as to why these men are so against the idea of dating vs. having meaningless, nonmonogomous sex after barely getting to know me. No, I'm not jumping into bed with them right away, or at all in most cases, as I'm not comfortable sleeping with someone I don't care about, so I don't think that's it, either. I've been told people don't date anymore, but I don't buy it. I'm worth the effort to get to know, and I have a lot to offer besides my body. As an independant woman, I have a career, two kids, own a home, car, motorcycle, support myself and my kids well, and can do most things for myself; anything I can't do, I hire someone to do for me. I have a life of my own, too, full of good friends, family, and fun things I like to do, like ride my motorcycle, go to concerts, and hike, exercise, etc. I don't "NEED" a man, but I would like someone to share my life with, not just my vagina. I've tried online dating, but haven't gotten very far with that, either. It's really depressing. Any ideas?