does he love me?
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does he love me?
| Wed, 03-03-2004 - 1:43pm |
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years. About 5 years ago his fiancee cheated on him. Ever since he's been scared to be in a relationship. It took him over a year into our relationship to admit we were bf/gf. He is slowly improving but I'm feeling very insecure.
I've told him that I love him, but he hasn't said he loves me. He's said "I care about you more than I want to admit" but he also says he doesn't know how he feels. He's told me he cares about me "a lot." I care about him more than I've ever cared about anyone else. We're best friends and the thought that he doesn't love me, and that I could lose my best friend breaks my heart. I'm trying to be objective, but I really think he does love me and isn't ready to say it, but then I second guess myself.
I've told him that I love him, but he hasn't said he loves me. He's said "I care about you more than I want to admit" but he also says he doesn't know how he feels. He's told me he cares about me "a lot." I care about him more than I've ever cared about anyone else. We're best friends and the thought that he doesn't love me, and that I could lose my best friend breaks my heart. I'm trying to be objective, but I really think he does love me and isn't ready to say it, but then I second guess myself.
But at the same time, I need to know whether or not he does love me, or if I'm just setting myself up for a bigger heartbreak. He says he feels "broken" inside, and I'm so confused about whether he loves me and is afraid to say, or if he doesn't.
Any advice would be appreciated

Sounds to me like this guy isn't even over his fiance yet, though you've spent 2 years with him!! I think you deserve better than that, don't you?
He's not a teenager, he's not allowed to pine after a lost love. And if he is. Then you don't need to be around to see it. Leave him. Let him get over himself and this girl that wounded him so deeply that FIVE YEARS later he can't allow himself to love. (that's sarcasm)
Taylor
Having said that to me the majority of the time that someone doesn't tell someone else he/she loves that person it is because that person doesn't feel love for the other person.