does he like me? or want to be friends?
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| Fri, 06-16-2006 - 5:02pm |
hi everyone. i'm kind of confused about a guy i've seen a few times. i'm recently divorced with a small child. i haven't dated much, but a guy who golfs with my dad asked me to have drinks with him a few weeks ago, and i went (i knew who he was, but we never were friends prior to this). we had a great time, and he sent me a text message afterwards saying he had a great time and wanted to do it again. we did not kiss.
the following weekend, he asked me to go out with him and a few friends of his. i went, and had a great time. he introduced me to everyone and made a point of including me in all of their conversations (i'm new to the area, so it was nice to meet some people). there was some healthy flirting going on, but, again, nothing physical happened.
the next weekend (3rd weekend in a row), i had tickets to a concert that i was supposed to attend with my best friend. she cancelled on me last-minute, so i asked him to go. he said yes, and we had a wonderful time. he's great to be around, and we had a blast. he rubbed my neck during the concert, and again, there was much healthy flirting. when we got home, he gave me a nice sweet kiss goodbye. it was nothing passionate, but very sweet. he called me the following day to say thanks again for taking him to the concert, and he did say "next time we go out it's my treat", although we made no specific plans to get together. i haven't heard from him in 5 days. i'm wondering what you all think he might be thinking? i don't want to call him and be annoying, but i would like to see him again, although i realize that if we see each other every weekend, it might be a bit much. do you think he gives off signs of liking me, or do you think he just wants to be friends? is there anything i should do or say to him? or should i just be patient? i really appreciate your thoughts! the dating world is a whole new place to me, and i'm SO confused!!! :)

amy1476...
You've gone out on 3 dates with a man whose 'level of acceleration' is somewhat slower than yours. Wanna know why?
Here's Pianoguy's 2 cents....which you can accept, reject or completely ignore.
Until this man is completely clear in his head that he wants to GET SERIOUS WITH A RECENTLY DIVORCED WOMAN AND ACCEPT THE RESPONSIBILITY OF BEING A STEP-FATHER TO HER SON, he's NOT gonna rush things.
Why?
Because he doesn't have to!
You're the one who needs to patiently 'guide him along' and let him know how much more you can add to his life. But I honestly think you're 'pushing the envelope' much too quickly!
Give the relationship at least 6 months (I'd prefer a year actually)...then see if his attitude and affection for you improves?
If you RUSH us too quickly...we'll split! End of story.
Pianoguy