Does he really love me

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Does he really love me
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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 6:21pm
My boyfriend and I met 2 months after he split with his wife of 28 years. Two months later I moved in with him. Four months after that I moved out. It's now 3 months later and he has been trying to get back with me. His ex-wife just wrote me an email stating that he was cheating on me the whole time I lived with him with her. Also she said other things that he told her that the only way she would know is if he did say them. He has broke it off with her for good he says, but with everything that was said and it was alot of not very nice things (he said I was fat, not very smart, had bad taste in decor, Does he really love me or am I a rebound. Since I broke it off with him, I was told his ego was hurt and now its really the chase. If he catches me, will he do this again? Needing some comments from you out there. Help
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Registered: 09-09-2004
Tue, 09-28-2004 - 6:47pm
I hope I don't offend you, as that's not my intent. I'm seeing red flags here. This is jmho. You ultimately have to make the choice of what you're going to do.

He's already broken the trust you had for him by going and telling his ex-wife things that were spoken between the two of you. I don't know if she'd have a reason to lie about the rest of it. She's already divorced him and knows what he's really like.

I was married to a man that used to tell me the same things. Seriously....he couldn't fill out an application on his own, but he could find himself a honey. I problems with anyone who'd tell me I was fat and not too smart. Granted we tend to say things in the heat of a fight. But, your guy is messing with your head by saying those things. After a while you may start to believe him.

I don't think you've broken his ego, sounds like he has a whole lot left over. It's a wonder he can walk through the door with that big head sitting on his shoulders. He just doesn't like to lose. He wants to be the person to dump.

If I were you, I'd say SEE YA and not look back! You can do MUCH better than him.

Sending you many hugs.

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 1:56pm
Thanks for you input. The things he said about me were not said to me from him. Example: He tried to teach me some book work on the computer. I tried for 2 days but just couldn't get it down. When the ex-wife emailed me she brought this up and thats when I was called stupid. She also had other examples of things that there is no way she would know unless he said something to her about it. She told me incidents about my daughter that again how would she know. She also said he likes money. I wouldn't think much about it, but I was carjacked and received a small amount of money from it. She also mentioned this in her email. She said that once that money is gone, so will he. She states she knows him better than I ever will seeing how she was with him for almost 30 years. I am considering returning to him. Do you think I can trust him. Please help.