Does he really want me or not?

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Registered: 01-21-2007
Does he really want me or not?
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Mon, 02-05-2007 - 7:22pm
I remember him being despertate for a g/f last year when he asked me out. At the time I wasn't ready to date yet since I just got out of a relationship that sucked. So I kept saying no I'm not ready. He asked me when do I think I'll be ready and I told him I didn't know. So he started asking me if I knew anyone who was single and wanted someone. Then he said he hopes he's the one when I'm ready. But before all that, we bumped into each other outside one day and it was then he started asking me out. I know him through my ex ex b/f. Anyway ya, when I bumped into him outside he said there's something about me that he likes, I was confused considering it's been a while since I seen or spoke to him. And he seemed desperate to get with me. For 2 months I kept saying no not ready. Nov 30 I told him I was ready and we started dating. So now it's been 2 months and 6 days. He says he loves me and he cares about me alot. We even talked about having a futcher together and a family. And ya.... He even went as far to say that I'm part of his family now and when I say I hope we stay together he says don't worry, were going to stay together for a long long long while. So I'm taking it he means he really wants me. We started doing a lil foreplay but I'm not ready for sex yet and he's very understanding about that. Right, thing is now suddenly he's making me wonder. He's making me wonder does he really care about me or is he just with me for the sake of being with someone? Could it be he's not as serious as me in the relationship? I heard a term women mature quicker than men. Is it true? And when I wonder what he's really thinking of me, I remember when he was desperate to get with me. When he saw me outside and asked me for my number and stuff. Last month though, I did talk to him about this. I told him that if he doesn't really like me and he's pretending to it would really hurt me. He made it crystal clear that he wanted me. So I stopped thinking that. Suddenly I'm starting to again cause lastnight he wasn't home, he went to watch the super bowel at his work place and came home late. I decided to phone him and his mom answered and she gave the phone to him. He said he just got in but he spoke to me. After a while of us talking he started seemingly being rude. Not sure why but to me it felt like it. So I'm thinking maybe he didn't want me phoning him and he wanted me to wait till he phoned me. Cause he said well I told you i'd phone you. And usually he doesn't mind me hanging up and phoning him back but lastnight he minded. He wanted to hang up with me cause he said he thinks his mom needs the phone, but it was midnight. Could I be to clingy? Maybe he wants time alone or he really doesn't want me? For some reason, I went to bed teary eyed lastnight and felt like he didn't care about me anymore. Truth is, he's the only person I feel close to sometimes. I have only 1 friend. And ya....I don't know. Anyway how can I find out if he likes me or if he's pretending to? Really extra sorry for this being so long. But thanks a million to whoever reads and replies to this.
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Registered: 01-15-2007
Tue, 02-06-2007 - 6:33pm
WOW well it sounds like that maybe he was tired after the game but it sounds to me that he likes you and he cares about you now you need to trust him and let him call you that way he will appreicate you more and the heart grows founder when absent is around meaning when your not in the person face 24/7 and you let them do their things and they come back respecting you even more so just chill for it sounds like he does care about you let the past hurt realtionships go and let this new one in sure its risky to let someone in your heart but when you meet the right guy its worth it trust me HUGSSSSSSSSSSSS

 

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Registered: 01-21-2007
Wed, 02-07-2007 - 12:57am
Well ya probably. Maybe it's just me that needs to chill. The last time we saw each other was Saturday. I have no friends and I think I'm feeling he's the only one I'm close to. I mean, I'm close with my family somewhat but ya. I can't seem to keep friends for some reason. I lost 4. One changed her number and email and didn't bother giving it to me, the other one is like 30 and I'm 22 were not in age to hang out and even so, she never phones me and when I ask her to hang out she puts it off. The other one I was close to her but suddenly she just stopped phoning me and hanging out with me cause she made other friends at her work place. The last one wasn't really my friend. She was just using me for when her other friends were busy or if they were mad at her. So ya......I dunno. I'm gonna talk to someone on Friday about this. I'm gonna discuss all whats on my mind...From there on, I dunno. All I know is that I wish I had friends and not just my b/f alone...