Does he view me as a friend or more?
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Does he view me as a friend or more?
| Mon, 08-16-2004 - 2:00pm |
I'll try to make this as brief as possible:
okay, about a month ago I was out with some friends at this bar & I noticed this guy & he was so hot. I couldn't keep my eyes off of him & he apparently couldn't keep his eyes off of me because he kept staring also... but I found out he has a girlfriend. Well the next night he & I end up at the same bar again. & we kept checking each other out & a friend of mine goes up & asks if he has a girlfriend & he says yes. Well later on in the night he approaches me & we chat for a bit & he gets my #... Well we have been talking on the phone & hanging out a few times a week... but he only invites me to hang out when it is him & his friends or to go out to a bar... We have only hung out once on a one on one basis & it was to a movie so there wasn't too much conversation... but we talk on the phone at least a half hour a day & for me that says a lot because my phone conversations with my own friends never last more than 2 minutes... Well the other day he told me he was flying home for the weekend... (he is from out of state) So I asked him what for & he said to see his girlfriend & visit his family... so I had the nerve to ask him how exactly did his long-distance relationship work out for them & he said that was what he was going up there for was to discuss it with her...so what do you think that means?? & what do you think I mean to him... I mean he has never tried anything with me: kissing, etc. but he always seems interested but do you think it is just in a friend way... like since he is from out of state he just views me as someone to hang out with down here? I am not the type to bring up something so blatantly but after hanging out with him so much I am starting to have feelings that just keep growing for him... & I would like to approach the subject & tell him just that, "Yeah, we hang out so much & I am starting to have feelings for... so what am I to you, etc." But I don't have the nerve & if I am just viewed as a friend than I don't want to be embarrassed.... but I do like him... so any opinions on this matter would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks
okay, about a month ago I was out with some friends at this bar & I noticed this guy & he was so hot. I couldn't keep my eyes off of him & he apparently couldn't keep his eyes off of me because he kept staring also... but I found out he has a girlfriend. Well the next night he & I end up at the same bar again. & we kept checking each other out & a friend of mine goes up & asks if he has a girlfriend & he says yes. Well later on in the night he approaches me & we chat for a bit & he gets my #... Well we have been talking on the phone & hanging out a few times a week... but he only invites me to hang out when it is him & his friends or to go out to a bar... We have only hung out once on a one on one basis & it was to a movie so there wasn't too much conversation... but we talk on the phone at least a half hour a day & for me that says a lot because my phone conversations with my own friends never last more than 2 minutes... Well the other day he told me he was flying home for the weekend... (he is from out of state) So I asked him what for & he said to see his girlfriend & visit his family... so I had the nerve to ask him how exactly did his long-distance relationship work out for them & he said that was what he was going up there for was to discuss it with her...so what do you think that means?? & what do you think I mean to him... I mean he has never tried anything with me: kissing, etc. but he always seems interested but do you think it is just in a friend way... like since he is from out of state he just views me as someone to hang out with down here? I am not the type to bring up something so blatantly but after hanging out with him so much I am starting to have feelings that just keep growing for him... & I would like to approach the subject & tell him just that, "Yeah, we hang out so much & I am starting to have feelings for... so what am I to you, etc." But I don't have the nerve & if I am just viewed as a friend than I don't want to be embarrassed.... but I do like him... so any opinions on this matter would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks

If he decided that the long distance thing wasn't working and broke it off, waited a bit and then asked you out, then great. Other wise, who's to say he wouldn't dump you when something *better* came along.
So until he's no longer with someone, YOU should be acting like he's only a friend.