Does love make you scared?
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Does love make you scared?
| Fri, 02-16-2007 - 7:55pm |
Why is it when things are going well and you're having fun with a guy, everything is fine until he tells you he loves you. The guy in my life told me this the a couple of weeks ago and I haven't been the same since. I feel so scared and vulnerable and every time we talk, I'm at a loss for words because I don't know how to be just casual anymore and just want to be held. It's not even that I necessarily love him but I feel like he's made me so vulnerable by saying those words and now I don't know if I want him or I want to run away from him. I haven't had a man tell me he loves me in about three years now and I thought I wanted it but now that I have it, I fear that it will be taken away or that it isn't real and is some kind of joke. I guess that's because the last few years, all the guys who I really cared for either rejected me or hurt me so badly when I was dating them. One guy lied about about caring for me and now, I'm suspicious of any guy who tells me he cares. I think I'm scared of love and don't know what to do. Should I be feeling this vulnerable? I don't know because I've forgotten the intricacies of how loving someone feels.

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Pianoguy's suggestion:
Maybe you should ask the man what his definition of the word: LOVE is? . And if you can get "an honest response" from the man whom you've been interested in...perhaps you can respond with your true thoughts about the word...and the subject itself! Where is it written that you have to give your heart away...right away?
While your response to the word may or may not please him....there's no point in pretending that your feelings match his...or even keeping a relationship going...if the 2 of you "aren't on the same page?"
Good Luck!
Pianoguy
I know how you feel...love is a scary thing....I was afraid to love my guy i mean afterall he told me he loved me after we'd been going out for barely a month! i'm so cynical about love and it drives my boyfriend crazy...but at the end of the day i know that i love him ....its just hard to trust someone once you've been broken...but on those occassions when I am soo in love with him i know that its worth putting yourself out there and loving him back...so i say give it chance even though it's probaly one of the scariest things you'll ever do..!
good luck!