Does Not have the time?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-26-2006
Does Not have the time?
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Wed, 04-26-2006 - 12:05pm

I will try to make this brief! About 7 weeks ago, I met a local radio personality..whom I always thought was attractive, sexy, funny and has a great personality. I would have never approached him...just because. I was tired of being the aggressor.

So on 3/17 we made eye contact, smiled/waved and he came over to me..! We could not talk that eve...other committments..he asked me to 'email' him at the station. I did...he said he would rather get to know someone through email..well the emails went very well..we are definitely attracted, on the same track..lots in common..blah blah..the problem is we have not been out in person. He said we need to go for a drink..so about 2 weeks ago he said, "when I get time, we need to go and have drink!"
We are still emailing..I have given him my phone number twice! (He does not like to chat on the phone) SO finally, I said something about taking him for a birthday drink...after a few more emails..he said he would see what his week is like and that he is supposed to spend a day with his 11 yr old son.....okay...I can handle this!!

Please keep in mind..we are both over 45 yrs..not into playing games, I thought! All of my friends are telling me that there is NO ONE that BUSY that he could not have taken me out before now...I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt.

SO I have decided that IF we do not go out this weekend....then I will not email him anymore...he will have to call me or email me...I am about over the childish email crap! It is time to stand up to the plate...He is definitely interested, well at least he seems to be and I am interested in him. I will say in the beginning he did make it very clear that he is not looking for a 'girlfriend'...more of a friend / lover!!! I am okay with that in the beginning....but I am sure after spending time together that may change...and if not, I move on!

Help, I need advise. Would anyone else have gone 7 weeks emailing???? What should I do??

Thanks!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 05-01-2006 - 8:43am
I do think that you should keep looking. There is a great guy out there just for you. I read something here on ivillage the other night and I though that it was great help. Its called ( Finding a man in 30 days). There is also other articles that are great. Maybe you should read them. It might help or not. Forget about him and move on, dont stop looking.
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Registered: 04-26-2006
Mon, 05-01-2006 - 8:49am

Thank you! I do try to read as much as I can on IVillage! It is one of the best sites out there.

Take care and Thanks!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 05-04-2006 - 5:05pm
I'm afraid that sounds like a good bet
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-04-2006 - 5:46pm
Honey, he made it perfectly clear that he was not looking for a girlfriend more of a friend and lover. He is not playing games with you, if you want a committed relationship, move on. Sorry to tell you that, sometime the truth hurts. good luck
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Registered: 04-26-2006
Fri, 05-05-2006 - 8:40am

Thank you and I understand that! When he said that after about 2 weeks of email...that should have been my 1st red flag and I should have nipped in the bud right then and there...however, stupid that I am, I 'thought' that IF he took the time to get to know me..maybe that would change...I was not trying to change him...but how do you know if you like someone, if you don't even take the time to get to know them!!!?????

Even IF I am looking for a companionship/relationship..that does not mean it would have been him!!!!! I was just frustrated when men do not even take the time to meet you IN PERSON or talk to you on the phone...how was he to know he even wanted to have me as a friend/lover IF he never even spoke to me on the phone?????

Thanks for your input...I have moved on and realize HE IS NOT WORTH MY TIME!!!! Between, reading "He's just not that into you"......and the 50 RULES OF DATING....I have re-educated myself! I will still be a great woman and the nice person that I am and I do have so much to offer the 'right' guy! But I definitely will see the 'red flag' from the beginning next time and I will not tolerate it!

Do not lower your expectations ladies....you are worth it!!!! Many frogs out there!

Good Luck!!!

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