Does sex mean anything anymore?!
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Does sex mean anything anymore?!
| Fri, 07-09-2004 - 4:32pm |
I have read so many posts recently where people talk about having sex with people that they aren't in a relationship with. Does anybody ever fall in love before they have sex anymore? I guess I'm really old fashioned, I have never had sex with someone that A)I wasn't in a relationship with or B) that I didn't love...I just don't understand why people would even consider having a friends w/ benefits situation or have sex with someone they barely know. It seems that sex doesn't mean anything to anybody anymore and it's not taken very seriously. Don't get me wrong I enjoy sex, but to me there is alot more to a relationship than sex. I was just wondering if I'm the only person that feels this way?

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Why on Earth a woman having sex for the pleasure of it makes her a slut? What a small mind to think this way.
And why on Earth would a woman call the man she had a ONS the next day (s)??? Many women nowdays simply want that ONS and that's it!! They know he will not call afterwards neither they want it!! If they want it for him to call, or want to try a relationship with him, well, then don't have sex right away, just give time to know him better!! Isn't this simple? If a woman goes on a ONS, well, just enjoy it, but do no expect nothing from there but sex (despite some exceptions). It's very worth for a woman to have sex for the pleasure of it, but she has to have her feet on the ground about it.
Also, it's not the future of every woman to want to get married and have kids, there are other things in life to do or other roads to choose. But, even for a woman who wants that, a man wouldn't want her because of her sexual past??? But why does he have to know her sexual history to be in love with her?? If there aren't any STD involved, well, her sexual past it's not his business!!!
I just think there are many different roads to go and choices to make, everyone should make the one that fits better. Neither woman who just have sex with love are a role model of values because of that, neither one who have sex only for the pleasure should be consider a slut!
And really, you don't have to be in love to have great sex! I'm sorry for the women who don't know this.
Edited 7/11/2004 7:31 am ET ET by luabonita
I) What kind of commitment for a relationship can I expect from a woman who would have little qualm about sleeping around?
II) Why would a woman want to get in a relationship with me (or any man for that matter) if she is getting it easily?
III) Why would I want to INVEST in a relationship to be with a woman who thinks she is in "love" for a short time while the 'love' lasts, before she dumps me for the BBD (bigger better deal) - and falls in 'love' for the next guy down the block ....
NO THANKS!!!! I'll pass she can have - sleep with a regular Joe Shmoe ....
II. You think that a woman who is capable of casual sex wouldn't want a relationship with you? Perhaps you are the right guy for her. Perhaps not. You have to prove yourself too.
III. You think that a woman who enjoys casual sex is in love for a short time and will dump you for the next guy? Women who enjoy casual sex know the difference between sex and love. It's the ones who fall in love fast that you have to watch out for. Women who enjoy casual sex are not going to get into a relationship with you unless they want to. Edit: Ask any woman. A woman who thinks she is in love does not view the sex as casual. It's serious business. I do agree with you here. People who fall in love fast probably fall out of love just as fast...that's infatuation. Men do it too.
You obviously have some stereotypes about women, but I'm not surprised or shocked. I don't think your beliefs are all that uncommon and you are certainly entitled to live within your comfort zone. I will say this though. You've probably dated some women who have had casual sex and you didn't even know it and still don't, because contrary to what most people may believe, women who are capable of and enjoy casual sex are not having it every night of the week with a different man!
Edited 7/12/2004 12:44 am ET ET by whitemonkey
Now you can say that men dont care either and its a double standard blah blah blah
BUT if you label a women, what happens? They get emotional and distraught
If you label a guy, what happens? The guy does not care, because we are not emotional
If i run into trashy women like this, i'll treat them like it. When i have a ONS, i know for a fact that she's trashy, and i'll treat her like it. Just use her and leave and never call her. She deserves the treatment for the lack of morals and values. Maybe these women will come to their senses one day, but i seriously doubt it. Its only gonna get worse
Edited 7/12/2004 10:03 am ET ET by sniffle_sally
You say a woman who stays in a ONS with you is trashy and without values, so my friend, by your way of seeing things, YOU'RE also trashy and withtout values, because you're doing the same as her!!! You can do it but they can't???!!! What a small mind here! You think you can treat them as objects, but you're furious that they do the same to you!
You can make sex with her and see her that way??? Wow, what kind of human beeing are you? Fortunately for the women that you don't want to have a relationship with them neither call them next day, it's a favour you make them!!
About women making casual sex, that not mean they go to a bar pick up a guy or sleeping everyday with a different guy, that just mean that they get horny not only when they're in love, and just take care of her sexual needs when the opportunity arises. Women like these can commit, but with the right man!!! They don't want neither depend a man or a relationship to be happy, and they know how to distinguish enfatuation/sex drive from love. Dangerous are women who not distinguish this. Often they marry for the wrong reasons.
People should do what suits them better, sex with love, sex without love, sex with strawberries, whatever. Since they're happy and do it consciously. Men who judge a woman only because of how she carries her sexual life without playing any attention to whom she is and her personality, character, etc, really is in need for counseling and know women better.....
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