Does sex mean anything anymore?!

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Does sex mean anything anymore?!
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Fri, 07-09-2004 - 4:32pm
I have read so many posts recently where people talk about having sex with people that they aren't in a relationship with. Does anybody ever fall in love before they have sex anymore? I guess I'm really old fashioned, I have never had sex with someone that A)I wasn't in a relationship with or B) that I didn't love...I just don't understand why people would even consider having a friends w/ benefits situation or have sex with someone they barely know. It seems that sex doesn't mean anything to anybody anymore and it's not taken very seriously. Don't get me wrong I enjoy sex, but to me there is alot more to a relationship than sex. I was just wondering if I'm the only person that feels this way?
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 12:55pm
You go, you go, you go, Girl/Guy (not sure what you are)!

It seems to me he was actually saying that men can get away with it (the double standard) and I must say I agree that they do get away with it......but, not with me or you. There is some girl out there who would definitely look the other way (or really agree with him) in order to be in a relationship with him. I am not that girl and neither are you. We'd kick him to the curb and would rather be alone than be with a person who treats women so disrespectfully.

Edited 7/12/2004 1:00 pm ET ET by whitemonkey


Edited 7/12/2004 1:05 pm ET ET by whitemonkey

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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:05pm
Amen!

And sex with strawberries is great...LOL

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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:09pm
If you ask any man what he thinks of a women who sleeps around for her pleasure, what do you think he's going to say??? "what a slut" is what he's going to say. These women know the routine. Why sleep around for and degrade yourself? Do these women feel proud of themselves to be used? These women have no self respect to have promiscuous sex outside a relationship. So why should a guy respect her?? He'd be an idiot too

A man will want to know about her sexual past to see if she is worth it.The way to tell someones future is by there past. He doesnt want to feel like a piece of meat to her which is most likely going to happen with a promiscuous women. Is she worth his time? IMO, once a slut, always a slut. They never ever change. No promiscuous women is worth any mans time. She treats herself like trash, so why shouldnt the guy treat her this way?

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:18pm
A women who has ONS is a slut plain and simple and you can ask ANY MAN

Its up to the man who if he will accept her behavior and 99.9% of the time he wont. Then she'll come crying on this board about it. Well duh. Have some self respect.

The thing is - you can call a guy a slut, ho etc............ Do you actually think its going to bother him?? Heck no! You have just stroked his ego in a positive way, because he is sleeping with many women. He will be called a pimp or player which guys want to be.

Now if you call a girl any of the above, what happens to her? Exactly. No guy will accept her for her type of behavior. She is disposable

So the point of double standards is moot. Men are not emotional as to women are greatly are. Any guy who judges a women on her promiscuous behavior is doing a good thing for himself to prevent drama.Promiscuous women are in need of counseling not the man in ths situtation, due to her unstable lifestlye


Edited 7/12/2004 2:20 pm ET ET by djrazr

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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:23pm
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Edited 7/12/2004 2:25 pm ET ET by djrazr
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:37pm
Usually it is women who don't want to feel like a piece of meat. I've never heard a guy say this. Too funny! Usually men are secure enough with their sexuality to enjoy being enjoyed!

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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:39pm
Actually someone calling me a slut would be irrelevant to me, because their opinion of me wouldn't much matter. LOL To me anyone who has to resort to name calling, their opinion does not matter.
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:47pm
He feels like a piece of meat when he has a ONS. I don't know why he has them if he doesn't get any pleasure out of it. Sad. Perhaps it's peer pressure. I'm still trying to grasp what he means by slut. Certainly he must think of himself the same way if he behaves the same way.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 3:04pm
Thanks for making women everywhere aware of this! It's not something most women have not heard before. The bottom line is many women don't care what you think and yes, you will be just a piece of meat to them with that attitude or perhaps even without it! You can go on all you want to about how all men think this way and continue your hatred for sexually liberated women, but a truly sexually liberated women would understand that you would never be anything more than someone who pleased her sexually. If you can't handle being used for sex, you should not have indiscriminate sex. After reading more of your posts, I realize that you really have a problem with indiscriminate sex and a woman getting sexual pleasure from you while not loving you. It's not the woman's behavior that bothers you. It's the fact that you are not all that. Well, that's just the way it is sometimes and if you can't handle the heat, stay out of the bun warmer.
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 3:27pm
I know many men who have married women that have had sex on the first date. So apparently there are plenty of men out there that don't feel this way.