Does sex mean anything anymore?!
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Does sex mean anything anymore?!
| Fri, 07-09-2004 - 4:32pm |
I have read so many posts recently where people talk about having sex with people that they aren't in a relationship with. Does anybody ever fall in love before they have sex anymore? I guess I'm really old fashioned, I have never had sex with someone that A)I wasn't in a relationship with or B) that I didn't love...I just don't understand why people would even consider having a friends w/ benefits situation or have sex with someone they barely know. It seems that sex doesn't mean anything to anybody anymore and it's not taken very seriously. Don't get me wrong I enjoy sex, but to me there is alot more to a relationship than sex. I was just wondering if I'm the only person that feels this way?

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I met him at a beach party, we slept together that night, had incredible sex, and we're together since. Hopefully, he doesn't think women who have ONS are sluts, because that way he give it time after the ONS to know me better, my personality, my tastes, character... and we ended up together.
So, open you mind about women, you can find amazing surprises you don't find another way.
So just because a woman is capable of having a ONS, or several, does not make her a slut, or untrustworthy. It totally depends on the situation. Sometimes she just doesn't want to complicate things with a relationship, but still wants physical closeness and satisfaction. As long as it's safer sex and both parties have equal expectations, nobody gets hurt.
My earlier statement about looking for a LTR with a "sexually liberated" woman was largely based on perceptions from the male world, where a promiscuous man who finds great ease in switching partners is usually one who has great difficulty commiting to a relationship with a female. In a similar fashion women assume that just because they seem sought after by other males i.e. there is competition for them, that is automatically bound to raise a guy's interest level.
Now I don't want to get into an argument of whether this is true or not. My point is that we can only judge based on our own experiences and knwoledge and in the male world promiscuity is closely aligned with an inability to commit. As a male I would make this judgement almost automatically, despite the very good arguments of posters here why it is simplistic and wrong ....
Just 2c
BB
I think women can separate sex from love till they meet someone they really love and stick to it. Men can continue separating love from sex even if they are in love with a woman for all of their lifes. Crazy, but it's true!
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