Does this sound like were exclusive?

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Does this sound like were exclusive?
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Mon, 05-21-2007 - 8:02pm

Hey everyone,

I have been dating this wonderful man for a month now, we have gone out about 6 times so far and he calls me everyday.Plus he emails me alot. We cmmunicate so easy and we can talk about everything and anything. We have yet to be intimate. He wants to take things slow because he told me he wants to be sure its right and he doesn't want to get hurt again..and rush into sex. I am all in agreement with that. But things have been heating up alot.

Were both 50.

We talked Saturday when we were out and we both said that we weren't dating anyone else. But my question is, should i still ask him if were exclusive or if he is still shopping around. I know he's not, but should i still ask. or just asume that since we both told each other were not dating anyone else, that were exclusive..Thanks Victoria

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Mon, 05-21-2007 - 10:10pm

No, it doesn't sound that you're exclusive. You are assuming that he's exclusive, but you don't know for sure. He calls and e-mails and that doesn't mean exclusivity.

In my experience, what you don't directly ask and get a direct answer to doesn't exist. A month is too short to assume that you're exclusive based only on neither is dating other people. You and him may be infatuated and are in the "hooneymoon" stage of dating. I'd continue dating to get to know him better, his habits and behaviors.

If you want to know if you're exclusive...ask him.




Edited 5/21/2007 10:11 pm ET by lightandbright
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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 11:05am
You discussed where you both were today, but that doesn't include "tomorrow". I would still ask him if he plans on only dating you.
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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 11:21am

Hello heymissy :)

I agree witht he others. In the dating world of today, you can never assume anything. And that includes exclusivity. The best way to handle this is with old-fashioned honesty. Ask him if he wants to try a relationship with just you. Or flip it the other way and tell him that you want to concentrate on him and see how he feels about being "official."

Holly