Does time stand still

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Registered: 04-28-2006
Does time stand still
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Thu, 02-22-2007 - 3:49pm

Can someone give me an answer for this question.... Is there such a thing as seeing someone for the first time and just completely fall for him/her. I mean you just have this gut feeling deep down inside that keeps telling you this person is really special person.

I got married pretty young (15yrs) and neither my ex nor I ever loved each other. It was a marriage of convenience so in actuality I have never been in love.

But I met this person and he has qualities that I am looking for in a mate... You know the list that you would put together when you are single and searching. We are on the same level intellectually, he is educated, well traveled, we have the same career and similar future goals, he likes the same things I like, movies, food,family life etc.

Honestly, this is the only guy I get nervous around, yet I feel comfortable enough to give him a piece of my mind when I am upset with him. I dont have the need to rush anything with him -it is as if time has stand still since I have met him and I have this ridiculous feeling that there is always tomorrow. I have never felt so beautiful, over-joyed, intellectually stimulated, witty, physically challenged etc as I am with him.

When we are together, I just love to study his tone of voice, his facial expressions, and the little quirks he does that makes him who he is. I have seen him at his worst and just truly walk away with added respect for him the way he handled the situation. He had to go out of the country for a business assignment for a couple of months so I thought I would never see or hear from him again, but when he returned he contacted me and it was as if we picked up where we left off.

I am trying to find my soulmate my true love...but I dont know if such a thing exist. Am I thinking like an imature teenager. Is it a gut feeling you have or get that tells you when the person is right for you?

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 7:59pm

I think this gut feeling is normal and a good thing! We call it attraction! It sounds to me as if you're attracted to him on several different levels - physically, mentally and even spiritually (religion, values, ethics, etc). I think sometimes when we fall for someone we feel a bit childish because it seems so irrational and unnatural to feel so much for someone we don't know very well.

Everyone has their own definition of true love or a soulmate. I would put some serious thought into what that is for you personally. For me a soulmate is someone I connect with on many different levels and who I'm willing to devote to, in good & bad and who I know will devote the same to me.

It sounds like you've met someone very special and that you've completely fallen for him...:) Enjoy!!

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 3:58pm

Only time will tell if this guy is the "right" one for you. What you're feeling is attraction and hormones. Which is a good thing, but not a teller as to whether your relationship is "the one" or not.




Edited 2/23/2007 4:07 pm ET by emdeesea