does your past reflect on who you are?
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does your past reflect on who you are?
| Fri, 11-19-2004 - 3:20am |
just wondering...
do you guys think that is necessary to respond to a guy you are getting to know for almost 5 months now...just as friends...obviously the person has dated others while keeping contact with each other (but chemistry is there, therefore decided to do something about it and start something fresh), but now that this couple is starting something fresh this guy insist in questioning about the girls past relationships..
this guy keeps insisting in knowing such things, his a guy my friend is starting to date once again.
it seems to me as if they are both stubborn. she doesnt want to tell him anything about her past because she feels embarrass about certain things, and he feels a NEED to know.
What do you guys think?
do you guys think that is necessary to respond to a guy you are getting to know for almost 5 months now...just as friends...obviously the person has dated others while keeping contact with each other (but chemistry is there, therefore decided to do something about it and start something fresh), but now that this couple is starting something fresh this guy insist in questioning about the girls past relationships..
this guy keeps insisting in knowing such things, his a guy my friend is starting to date once again.
it seems to me as if they are both stubborn. she doesnt want to tell him anything about her past because she feels embarrass about certain things, and he feels a NEED to know.
What do you guys think?

My ex once drove me to tears in his demands to know about my past relationships. It was his way of seeing if I really cared about the number of men I'd dated. Even though the number wasn't large, he wanted me to feel ashamed about it. It was my ability to feel shame that made me acceptable to him.
Anyone who NEEDS to know about another person's past like that is probably looking for a way to control or manipulate that other person.
I am not closed to discussing my past, but I would only do it when I felt free to volunteer the information. Given what I know now, I really wouldn't volunteer too much anyway. If you love me, you love who I am now. Take me as I am, or not at all.