Doesn't want me talking to the family!!!
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Doesn't want me talking to the family!!!
| Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:01pm |
I've been dating a guy for 3 months now. I'm 27 and he's 43. We are both divorced. He has two children (18 and 20) neither of which live at home. His oldest son and him don't have a relationship at all (due to things the ex said about him after the divorce) the youngest son and him are starting to have problems.
The other day I was at his house waiting for him to get home from work. Sometimes when he isn't there my mom will call me on his house phone because my cell doesn't have good reception. So, I answered the phone when it rang assuming it was her and it turned out to be his son. After asking for his dad and me telling him, he wasn't there, he then asked who I was. I told him that I had been dating his dad. (I wasn't expecting him to ask and it threw me. I knew that he had not told his kids yet.)
So, when I told my boyfriend, he didn't really say anything about it. So, the next day I talked to him a little about it and he said he didn't think I should answer his phone anymore in case it's his son. He said that since they were having problems he didn't want something else to take the focus and because the ex is causing problems with the son he didn't want her to know he was dating because she would use that too. Now, first I figure that his son already knows now, so why should it be an issue if I answer the phone? I didn't really say anything except to explain why I answered the phone. Am I overreacting at being upset at this? And how and what (if anything) should I say to him about it?
The other day I was at his house waiting for him to get home from work. Sometimes when he isn't there my mom will call me on his house phone because my cell doesn't have good reception. So, I answered the phone when it rang assuming it was her and it turned out to be his son. After asking for his dad and me telling him, he wasn't there, he then asked who I was. I told him that I had been dating his dad. (I wasn't expecting him to ask and it threw me. I knew that he had not told his kids yet.)
So, when I told my boyfriend, he didn't really say anything about it. So, the next day I talked to him a little about it and he said he didn't think I should answer his phone anymore in case it's his son. He said that since they were having problems he didn't want something else to take the focus and because the ex is causing problems with the son he didn't want her to know he was dating because she would use that too. Now, first I figure that his son already knows now, so why should it be an issue if I answer the phone? I didn't really say anything except to explain why I answered the phone. Am I overreacting at being upset at this? And how and what (if anything) should I say to him about it?

This makes no sense its not like his son is 6 yrs old it was an accident that you answer the phone and he shouldnt have been so sensetive but since it is his home I would not answer the phone and if he has a machine let the machine get it or if he has voice mail let that get it and that way you can check it if it your mom you call her back if it was the son you let it go and let him know that his son called but you did not answer the phone you were checking to see if that was your Mom that called you
Good Luck 2 U