done with men.. unless...

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Registered: 03-12-2007
done with men.. unless...
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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 2:50am


PLEASE HELP!!

Thank you!!




Edited 3/12/2007 3:27 pm ET by alwaysamess
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 4:25am

alwaysamess...

Pianoguy knows that most women are fond of analyzing and hopefully getting answers to why men behave the way they do.....BUT.....can't you just enjoy the friendship you have? Do you really need to have an answer for every male gesture, move or behavior pattern?

If something more serious is supposed to develop between the 2 of you...why not let the events progress naturally? If a good friendship is all you have...what's wrong with that?

My best guess is that "your best male friend" is trying to figure you out?

And as most men who are reading this already know...trying to decipher a woman's mood swings is just as difficult as attempting to cure "THE NATIONAL DEBT!"

Both CAN'T be done successfully!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 8:29am

Woo, woo, woo, woo, here.

You seem confused and I can see why. First, lets take an overall look at the general content of your post. In just a few short days we have you crying over an ex at 1AM at the bar, then intoxication, sharing intimate thoughts on a text message, then infatuation with a man who only picks on you, then cuddling and kissing this guy.

You seem to think that "he is perfect for you." How does he feel? Have you asked? Does he want a relationship? How about friends with benefits? An occasional smooch partner? Is he romantically attracted to you? Are you prepared for a relationship with a man who picks on you?

Men love aggressive ladies. However, before you get aggressive and go after what you want make sure you know where they stand beforehand. Otherwise, you may end up chasing men that aren't interested in what you have to offer. A man becomes perfect for you when he is willing to give you what you want, not beforehand.