Don't know what to do

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2006
Don't know what to do
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Fri, 12-08-2006 - 11:33pm
I am 20 years old and have never been on a date or ever kissed a guy. I know how lame! Anyways I have been chatting with a guy I met online through MYSPACE who is a really nice guy and lives not to far away from me. I really enjoy talking to him and he seems to be very interested in me. He is 24, and doesn't mind that I'm only 20, like most guys do. He hasn't said anything too perverted to me like other guys seem to do and seems like a real genuine guy. He has asked me out before and I have quickly changed the subject. He asked me out again a few days ago and like usual I changed topics. I don't know what to do. I really think I like him and I know that he's interested in me but I'm afraid that he won't like me when and if we meet. I dont know whether I should take the chance and go on a date with him or should I just continue chatting it up with him. Help me please!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 2:18am

I'd suggest to meet him IN A PUBLIC PLACE to see how you two connect. Chatting online is different from talking on the phone and meeting face to face. Arrainge a meet close to your home at a restaurant where you can talk. If you want to see him a second time then see how things work out. Tell a friend that you're meetin g this guy, just in case. There are lots of pervs out there and you don't know any thing about this guy.

I'd suggest also to change gears about how you date: think in terms of "do I like the guy?" instead of "does he like me?". Following the latter view could lead you to settle for less in fear of not believing that you can do better.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 8:31am
Go meet him for coffee. Don't worry about him liking you, worry about whether you will like him.