Don't wanna blow it this time...HELP

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Registered: 05-10-2003
Don't wanna blow it this time...HELP
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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 7:23pm
I have a bad history of getting attached to a guy really quickly and then, as much as I try not to let him know how attached I am, I somehow overwhelm him. I'm 22 and have never been in a long term relationship before so whenever I meet someone who I can potentially see myself with long term I easily fall for them and they never reciprocate those feelings (or at least not as quickly). So anyway, I met this guy about a week ago who is a friend of my sister's boyfriend. He is adorable and fun to be around. We hung out two nights in a row and he showed a lot of interest in me. Now I can't stop thinking about him, and I have no control over it. My sister's boyfriend asked him what he thought of me and he said that I was a really great girl and a lot of fun. He also told him to give me his number. So now I have this guy's number, who I really like a lot, who I see potential for something long term with, but I'm afraid to call because I don't want to blow it like I usually do. How can I get this going in the right direction without overwhelming him? Also, how can I keep my cool on the inside? I dont want to keep picturing myself with him and thinking about him all the time, but I can't help it! I need some advice before I make any sudden moves. Help me please.
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Fri, 10-15-2004 - 1:23pm
im interested in the replies b/c my current situation is similar..well few aspects are similar. ie, seeing something long term, getting excited, him expressing interest...

sorry i cant be of help..

actually maybe why dont you call him, then he'll have your number. and dont call him after that. im trying this whole 'not calling guys' thing.. (thanks to oprah and sex and the city book) just be confident that your convo on the phone will flow naturally. and see where it goes...but gawd i know the feeling

 

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Mon, 10-18-2004 - 9:15pm
Thanks for your support. It's good to hear that others are in my same boat. I also wanted to say that I did end up calling him yesterday and he couldn't talk at the time but he did call back later and we had a pretty decent conversation. I'll be seeing him this weekend so if I have any sort of breakthrough I'll definitely post it to save all the other people with my same dilemma. Thanks Again.