dont want to make an ass of u and me
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| Wed, 08-17-2005 - 9:02pm |
I met this guy at a bar in the middle june. we've been talking ever since, going out, good convo, good sex, etc., the whole package. he is genuinely into me. calls when he says he will, great cuddler, and we hang out more than ever now, talk everyday, see each other probably every other or third day. last weekend he even invited me on a camping trip with all his friends, and we had a blast.
but we've never had like a talk about our relationship. i know we're exclusive, but i dont know if he considers me his girlfriend and of course i don't want to assume, or be "that girl" who brings up the where-is-this-going conversation, we havent known each other THAT long.
oh, and one last bit of info, i'm about to head back to school in a couple days, its 7 hours away from him. he knows this, but has said things to imply we're still going to talk. but again, i dont know exactly how much/to what extent, or if visits are in the future. i guess i am confused about how to bring this whole conversation up to him, how to figure all this out without sounding needy. i really like him and would love for this relationship to continue.

The two of you need to talk. You need to say to him, "We need to talk."
It won't sound needy, it will sound like you want both of you to put your cards on the table. When your 7 hours away it is time to quit being casual.
I completely agree with chamey about this. Think if he was to bring this up and to say, "We should talk about what our relationship will be like when you're away at college. I think I'd like to visit you and to continue talking regularly on the phone." He wouldn't sound needy to you, would he? So why should you sound needy too him? It's not like you're asking him to marry you.
It sounds like you are afraid of asking for fear that the answer won't be what you want to hear. But if he is on the same page as you, which it sounds like he probably he is, then asking the question isn't going to change his mind. He'll probably just be glad to know that you want the same things as he does. And if he doesn't want as much from you as you're hoping, it's better to know the truth now. If you keep shying away from letting him know what you want, then he may end up with the impression that you're just not interested, and you'll be missing out.
First of all, there's no reason to lead off with the infamous: "We need to talk..."
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