Don't want to move in...or lose him!

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Don't want to move in...or lose him!
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Mon, 01-30-2006 - 1:01am
So I recently met the most amazing guy, we dated for 4 weeks and now he has moved to a city 2 and a half hours away. We tried doing long distance for 2 weeks and he absolutely hates it and says he can't take it, he won't fall in love with a girl he can only see two days a week (on the weekend). So now he asked me to move there with him. It's either that or we break up. I have no idea what to do, I'm not ready to move in, both since I don't feel I know him well enough (although so far what I've seen is amazing, more than I've ever dreamed), and because I'm just not ready (i'm only 22)). What should I do or say to him? I hate the thought of breaking up but I have no idea what to do.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 8:39am
It is way to early to move in with a guy you barely know. You may not want to break up with him but I don't see a way around the situation because he's not interested in a long distance relationship.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 8:42am

I strongly recommend not making a life altering decision for a guy you've only known 6 weeks. The right guy for you is going to be the one that fits into *your* life, not a guy that makes you fit into his.

If he's not willing to do the long distance, and he's not willing to move to your town, then I think you should break up. And perhaps circumstances will change one day and you'll be in a position to get back together.

But don't leave your friends, family, school/job for him now.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 3:20pm
Don't move in with him. This guy is giving you waaaay too much pressure. He knows you like him and he's already giving you an ultimatum. If you're not ready, then you need to stand your ground. You may be calling his bluff and he'll end up continuing the LDR.

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