Double Dating

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Registered: 12-08-2006
Double Dating
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Sat, 04-07-2007 - 2:12pm
When is too early to start double dating. My female friend and I want to go out together with her boyfriend (whom she just re-started a relationship with after they broke up) with a guy I just started casually dating. I was thinking about 3 months into both of our relationships. I was wondering what approach I should take. Perhaps checking it out first with my guy? Thanks!
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Registered: 09-19-2002
In reply to: nickia2006
Sat, 04-07-2007 - 4:05pm

I'm sure 3 months is more than plenty of time.

Instead of calling it a double date, just say something like:

"Hey (guy). (Female friend) and her boyfriend want to go (insert fun activity here). You down?"

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Registered: 03-27-2007
In reply to: nickia2006
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 10:01am
If you avoid the term "double dating" you'll be ok to do it much sooner. That term makes me(and a good amount of my friends) cringe. Just say you're gonna hang out together & go _____ while doing ______ and you'll be fine.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: nickia2006
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 10:37am
I am not sure what the concern is in regards to introducing him to your friends. Is it because that you are concerned that he would consider that more of a "boyfriend" kind of thing?
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Registered: 12-08-2006
In reply to: nickia2006
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 12:03pm
YES! exactly. im not sure how he feels about it. worried it might be too soon.
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Registered: 12-08-2006
In reply to: nickia2006
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 12:04pm
that's smart. i think i just might try that. thanks!
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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: nickia2006
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 6:47pm
I had a "squeeze" once who went out with me and another couple pretty early on, but he already knew the guy. If you make it sound casual, he will perceive it as casual. Like, "hey, jack and jill are going to see this concert, do you want to go?" It should be fine.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: nickia2006
Thu, 04-12-2007 - 3:19pm
Sure, ask your guy if he'd be interested and take it from there
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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: nickia2006
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 3:35pm
I agree - suggest it in a casual way but certainly three months is long enough to bring up the possibility of going out with another couple
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