double dating with siblings

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Registered: 06-09-2004
double dating with siblings
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Wed, 06-09-2004 - 9:52am
ok ill try to keep this short and to the point...

-a girl liked me about 6 months ago... i told her i didnt like her

-she begins dating with my brother (getting kind of serious now)

-I begin to like her sister... after some time, i eventually tell her i like her... she likes me too

-so after that... we talked for hours on the phone about what to do, cause my brother is going out with her sister

-a ton of people (our parents) would disapprove of this because of some chinese superstition that its bad luck for two brothers to be dating two sisters (we are both chinese)

-i personally feel that if two people like each other, then they should be together no matter what others say...

-she is worried about it because she knows that her mom will be sad and mad at her forever and her mom is really important to her so she doesnt want that to happen. she is also worried because she knows both our parents will disapprove

-continued to be together for 2-3 weeks while keeping it a secret

-she really likes me too...but because of the whole situation, she thinks we dont have a chance of a future together.. so she wanted to break it off soon before we get even more hurt in the future

-she has said that if we werent in such a bad situation... that we would probably have a really good future together... cause we both believe that we are perfect for each other

-she ended relationship yesterday

-we both still like each other a lot

our parents really believe in this superstition. We see each other a lot and our parents are constantly suspicious (we were keeping the relationship a secret but we behaved really well everytime in front of our parents). In fact I was just at her house studying last night and when I got home, I got a nice verbal barraging from my mom because she was suspicious of us being together and was voicing her disapproval. If we try to talk to our parents about it, they wont consider our feelings towards each other... they will only think it as just another normal relationship and that there are plenty of others out there. and drama level would skyrocket... they would constantly yell at us and try to convince us to split up. We both are pretty much 100% sure that both our parents will react this way.

what do you think... and have you heard of any situations like this before?

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 12:44pm
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