during sex.. HELP
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| Thu, 06-28-2007 - 3:42pm |
me & my boyfriend of 2 years..are experiancing an issue thats been going on lately. (past 4 times weve had sex) during sex..its just boring after he cant get "it" up anymore. (in the beginning) sex is great & he`s rock hard and we enjoy it together. im usually ALWAYS on top. and we do good about switching into diff. positions together. but when i am on top (after about 10-15 mins of sex) and he pulls out he gets soft very very quickly. i dont even think he has an orgasm unless he does and i not know it. then he just gets tired, lazy & gets an attitude with me. when im 100% aroused and ready for another round.. so its like.. boring (im laying there waiting for him) and he doesnt move. then all i want to do is get up and leave, but at the same time i dont because i love him..but he wont tell me anything thats wrong he just shows it..but then once im ready to leave he grabs me & kisses me and tells me he loves me & doesnt want me to leave.. im like.. "what?" i dont understand him. sounds like more other issues huh...? but im mostly concerned about our sex life thats making me want to not have sex with him anymore, or 'cheat' i dont want too.. i really dont & never have but i have needs and ive never had an orgasm or really a good outcome of sex with him.
its so hard...& i love him very very very much.
what should i do..say??? btw, were both 20 years old

reallllly rough. but i didnt want to seem pushy. but he was also feeling the same way.
i dont do oral sex..i havent yet and dont plan on til` getting married.. so thas a whole other issue.
<< You say you do go into different positions during the course of sex. What position do you feel he responds to during sex? Why don't you ask him what he likes and what he doesn't like? I'm sure he'll tell you. >>
thats a really good question... hes never tells me. but he always rolls me over to be "on top".. so i figure thats better for him.. as for me, its okay.. i always reach a point to where it feels like im about to have an orgasm it just never comes..
it probably would help us alot but im just not comfortable with doing it.
i haveso many negative feelings towards having oral sex..i wont even let him do it to me.