e-mail spy...should i reveal

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2004
e-mail spy...should i reveal
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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 12:36am
I have been dating a guy for the past year and a half, and these last 8 months we have been in a long distance relationship but both decided we don't want to see other people. He had been acting a bit distant lately and I had a hunch somehting was up so I decided to check his e-mail....Though he never e-mailed a girl, he did e-mail a friend recounting the events of the previous night and how there was throwing of underwear along with pornographic illustrations but that "nothing happened."

This isnot the first time that he swears nothing went on between him and another girl and he has denied it in the past though I still have my doubts. I feel like I am in such a bind because I've already tried to discuss the distance and the growing sense of uncertainty to probe him for info but he will have nothing of it. Do I tell him flat out that I read the e-mail and risk it or just stay mum until something else comes up? Or should I just cut my losses and move on?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 2:00am
I have been there...... and wish the email door was LOCKED.....

looking at your man's email will only lead to looking more...

you will not get a true answer from him if he is hiding with distance.

my ex... slipped and blurt out clues of someone else only for me to

see this person show up on his computer... if i could go back today

i would have never looked at nothing on his computer.. i

t hurt me and still haunts me today....once you know you know..

and when you keep getting gut

feelings, they are there to help and guide you....

so talking will get you ether more

info or more lies.... if you tell him you looked

he will be more angry at you and may pull away even more.

if he's pulling away from you now..

and not moving near you...

i would go with your gut and move away too.

save yourself and don't look.

take care