Eat up the hurt n remain friends?

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Eat up the hurt n remain friends?
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Sat, 03-11-2006 - 1:48pm

I will try my best to frame my question well. Don't know how to explain this the best way.

Would you ever TRY to remain friends with someone (if a relationship did not work out due to one reason or the other) who you genuinely liked, and if he genuinely likes you too?

My thinking is such: We have one life to live. There are only few people we find who we can really adore and like and get along with so well. Why LOSE them forever, just becoz a relationship is not going to work out?

Is it fair on me to TRY to be friends with him, and eat up my hurt while talking to him?
I still have feelings for him, but I simply do not want to say goodbye to him. We dated for 2 months, and he isn't ready for a relationship with anyone at this point. Another ascept is that when I do move on (I start dating other people), I will feel really awkward telling him about what's going on. It will be hurting.

What should I do? He is a precious person. I don't want to lose his friendship, but talking to him hurts.

Can two people TRY to remain friends despite the hurt?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-11-2006 - 2:33pm

I've never been able to do it and have it work out and I have rarely if ever heard of it working out. However, what HAS worked for me and others is to take a break and not have any contact for a while, until you get over your romantic feelings for him, and THEN reconnect as friends. You'll know you're ready to be friends when the thought of him telling you about some great new woman he met doesn't hurt.

Sheri