emotionally torn

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Registered: 10-29-2005
emotionally torn
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Mon, 11-07-2005 - 2:37pm

My best friend and I have been seeing each other. He tells me he loves me, but is still hurting form his ex, and can't commit right now.
He is moving away in 3 days.

I can't face him, because I know that I am totally in love iwht him, and I know he doesn't feel the same way.

i don't know if I can handle the good bye.

please help

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 2:58pm
Think of it as saying goodbye to your friend and not your "one and only". It will not be fun and it will be very difficult, but after it's over you'll be glad you did it with dignity. Take the high road... then go call a friend and go out for icecream.
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Registered: 03-09-2005
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 3:51pm

I know how hard it is, something somewhat similar happened to me. A few days before we were to say our goodbye I had really some good cries. I cried everything out, I told him in "my cries" everything I would have wanted to say in real life, which of course I DID NOT say, but I let it ALL out in those cries. I played every song that reminded me of him, and said to myself that someone will come eventually that will love me back as much I love them. I cried my heart and sould out.

So the day of our goodbyes, I told him goodbye and did not shed ONE tear. I had already said goodbye to him in those cries and there was nothing left to cry. I KNEW he respected me for that and after that he would call me or email to see how I was doing, at one point even asked me out. By that time I had moved on, but when I think about that day, I'm always happy to know that I maintained my dignity and composure and that he gain respect for me for not breaking down. Maybe my story can help you out. Good luck :)