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end of a loser
| Fri, 09-01-2006 - 2:49am |
Just to finalise my 'can love grow?' and other thread on this guy, he came back from his holidays and did not contact me. Then he contacted me and said he had a whole pile of my DVD's and videos etc which he never used and wanted to give me back. I realised he wanted to call it a day. Probably the holiday had given him chance to reflect that it was just to much effort for him even to be nice to me. He said I should meet at his place (where we usually meet) and then go out to eat. I wondered if he had been attacked by a sudden fit of generosity but anyway..I went around there and he gave me the DVD's in a pile and said he could never love me and couldn't go against his feelings and the whole thing was exhausting him. I said ok, then let's call it quits. It hurt me because when I saw him again it was hard to control my feelings and he looked very handsome and tanned after his break.
He then said he still liked the business idea and would like to be friends and meet from time to time (would that be once a year??). I said you couldn't do a business with someone and keep them at arm's length and to have a good business relationship you had to have a good rapport with the other person. He said my problem was that I wanted more than he could give me i.e. love and companionship. I said I couldn't even get him to be civil or answer calls half the time and think the 'love' thing is just a red herring since he can't respect me anyway. Best of all, after having said he didn't ever want sex with me or anything like that, he came out of the shower and wanted me to do a blowjob on him!!! I just got up and walked out and came home, tore up his photos and that was that. I think he is really disgusting.
He then said he still liked the business idea and would like to be friends and meet from time to time (would that be once a year??). I said you couldn't do a business with someone and keep them at arm's length and to have a good business relationship you had to have a good rapport with the other person. He said my problem was that I wanted more than he could give me i.e. love and companionship. I said I couldn't even get him to be civil or answer calls half the time and think the 'love' thing is just a red herring since he can't respect me anyway. Best of all, after having said he didn't ever want sex with me or anything like that, he came out of the shower and wanted me to do a blowjob on him!!! I just got up and walked out and came home, tore up his photos and that was that. I think he is really disgusting.

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He sounds really creepy. My guess is that he invited you over to see whether you would beg him to love you and have sex with you. When you did neither he got arrogant and nasty.
Good riddens.
This is a very VERY very polite version of what I have been dying to say to the OP after I read most of her posts... the mind boggles..
Folks, please bear in mind that when people post they are looking for advice, not judgement. Bear in mind that it's very easy to be clear on a situation and what should be done when you are outside of it. All of us have been in things that others may have looked at and said "why?" So please keep that in mind when posting.
Thank you!
All I can say is that I've been in your situation before and can understand why you're trying to be nice and to keep your word. At the end of the day though, realize that you do not need to treat people in ways they don't treat you. He hasn't been nice so don't go out of your way to be nice to him, you know?
I would suggest dropping all contact with him. Eventually it will just become emotionally and mentally draining and hon, you deserve a lot better than that!
Ugh.
He is a huge pig!! Please don't have any contact with him again and forget that business offer.
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