Ex boyfriend but still lovers
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Ex boyfriend but still lovers
| Wed, 09-15-2004 - 5:58am |
My boyfriend and I broke up a couple of weeks ago, we'd been together for a year, he felt trapped and wanted more space, we agreed to stay friends.I was heartbroken and knew it was for the best. He still kept ringing me and i found myself texting him when i missed him. When I saw him a week after we broke up he asked me if id met anyone else and i said I wouldnt go into another relationship till i got over him, that night he stayed over. I asked him if he still loved me and he said hes trying not to. This weekend he sent me a text saying he doesnt think hed ever get over me, I thought maybe we could get back together, so I suggested this to him, he came over and said there is no future for us because he wants children and to marry one day (hes 29).I'm 37 divorced and with 4 children, and dont want anymore children. He said we could have a relationship going until I meet someone else or he meets someone else, and then we'll just be friends, he doesnt want to meet anyone yet as hes going to the army end of the month (he also says he'l come and see me everyother weekend he has leave from the army) I dont know what to do as I still love him, I've told him this but he just says thats sweet. I've decided not to tell him this anymore. What should I do for the best, I know he isnt really right for me but find it hard letting him go.

Pianoguy isn't too impressed with your problem.
You've got 4 children and have "made your quota!" The b/f wants a child or two.
The sex between you both must be terrific! Or maybe it's the thought of being "desired" by a younger man that intrigues you?
However..."keeping a relationship going" until one of you finds another partner sure sounds STUPID to me! What each of you wants is totally out of sync with the other!
Pianoguy
If you two are looking for different things then why postpone the inevitable. Are you just worried that you're not going to find someone else? Cause you're not giving yourself the chance to if you're stuck on this guy.
To be honest, if you hadn't written your ages, I would have guessed you were teenagers. Believe it or not, adult mature relationships aren't like the one you're describing. And you should never give into to having just a sexual partner in the hopes that he'll change his mind and want a relationship with you again. He won't.
So stop talking with him, wish him well, and move on.
Alison