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ex contacting after breakup
| Tue, 09-07-2004 - 10:21pm |
He broke up with me about a month ago. I think he got angry, as we were having a fight. He said 'his heart was not there for me', he would want to stay friens as he liked me, but he would not want to 'sucumb to his libido' as he was attracted to me. I find all this very confusing. Anyhow, I've been avoiding any contacts with him. Last week he droped an envelope with photographs to my mailbox, I did not acknowledge that. Now today I got a message, very casual asking how I'm doing. I wonder if he's trying to get back together or is it his 'just friends' thing. I'm not sure if I should reply and what should my actions be?? I believe in NC after the breakup, and am not ready for friendship yet. But what if he wants to reconcile? Another thing is, his birthday is next week, and I'm agonizing whether to send him a card or not?

That way, you have made your position clear: you're open to trying again, and he is free to contact you if that's his intention, but if he just wants to "be friends" then he should not contact you.
Sheri
When you are clear about yourself and when you don't think about him. It's time to talk like friends.
I just read your message and I think you should not send your ex anything for his birthday.I was in a three year relationship and it took me soo long to get over it. However, my ex was seeing someone within three months. And for the holidays, he called my best friend and wished her happy holidays and did not evern bother to call me. So I think don't bother and go out and enjoy and meet new people. B/C I think they really don't care. That's my opinion. Good luck.