ex problem

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Registered: 05-21-2004
ex problem
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:46pm
My ex and I split up about 4 months ago. We became friends like we were before we started dating which is great after the kind of break up we had. The last several of weeks has been quite strange where we have been showing our interest in each other again which is fine cause I know that we still care for each and love each but the last couple of times that we saw each other(we hang out at the same place) he is treating me cold like im not even in the room, like its my fault that we are starting to show interest in each other where he is the one that is doing the more pursuring on it all, wont even talk to me at all. To be honest with you I dont know what I did or why he is treating me like dirt. I called him and left him a voice mail to call me cause I had some general ??? but he never called back. I was going to ask him why he was treating me the way he is and what i did wrong. Then last night we ran into each other and we didnt even acknowledge each other. I was mad at him for the way he was treating me and hes mad at me for something which I have no clue on. I had it with it all on how he treats me. Why he is he doing this and what can i do?

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Registered: 04-01-2003
In reply to: skeets4
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 6:24am
As you two are exes, he has no responsibility or accountability to you. He doenst have to return calls, pursue you, or even acknowledge you when he sees you out. Doesnt that suck? Thats why the bf/gf transition to friendship rarely works. Because even though you TRY to be friends, you end up having the same expectations as before.

Now, I hate to get all "dr phil" on you...but have you heard the expression "you teach people how to treat you"??? You will never hear me say "why is he treating me like dirt?" because I just wont allow it in my life. If you are being treated in a way that is unacceptable to you...you have to move on.

And in closing, maybe it will help you to think about WHY you two are exes to begin with. What were the issues that originally broke you two up. Because if nothing has changed drastically, and you two were to reconcile, you likely will have the same bad break up result. Same input, same output. Good luck.

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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: skeets4
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 4:17pm

Hello skeets!