ex re-occurance
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| Mon, 04-17-2006 - 1:54pm |
I had posted here a while ago, as things really fell into peices between my ex and I. Well its been about six (6) months of absolutely no contact - NOTHING. We live in the same town, pretty much around the corner from eachother. Not even a passing glance . In this time I have really worked on moving on from him regardless of pain, confusion and anger. I saw a therapist which did help me. I dated, etc.
BACKGROUND: ex and I together on and off for most of two year period, both of us in late twenties.
Recently I have been seeing a new guy who is very nice, insightful, and interesting. He is probably the first guy in a very long time I could consider a match . The new guy knows a lot about my last relationship and I know about his.
Somehow our conversations really started the old feelings about my ex resurface big time and last night I really started wondering, "what if" I called to say hi. I did it - I called, yes on Easter night. He didn't pick up and I didn't leave a voicemail. I was releived and felt fine...UNTIL, he called me back about an hour later. We had about a 4minute conversation before he had to go and take family home from their easter dinner. He asked if he should call back and I said sure. He said in about an hour. I was ecstatic. Then nervous. Then I realized he wasn't calling back.
He didn't. But before that hour was up I texted him, "I was surprised you called back before. Thank you." I did this to myself again. BUT, Im left with one question ... why did he call back in the first place and say he would call later and then just NOT?
Im alright and can stay away again, but if anyone could lend some insight I'd love to know.

Bottom line? Because that's what he wanted to do...it's as simple (and as frustrating) as that.
We could speculate for hours as to "why" and probably come up with a bunch of possible reasons, but we'd never know the real answer. Asking "why" questions really isn't going to get you anywhere. He did what he did...the "why" doesn't matter.
What DOES matter is that this is a slipperly slope for you. I hope you are right about being able to cut it off again.
Sheri