exclusive?

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Registered: 05-23-2007
exclusive?
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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 9:39am
I have been dating a guy for a few months now. I know he had been really into me earlier. I have already slept with him at this point but there has been no talk of exclusivity or anything like that. I don't think he is with anyone else, but is this something I should bring up. I don;t want to seem needy and push him away, but I don't want to be used or taken for a fool. Is this just assumed?
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Registered: 06-08-2006
In reply to: sammygrl2007
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 10:41am

Never assume anything, if you want to be exclusive tell him. Gook luck,

YG

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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: sammygrl2007
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 12:54pm
I agree with yogagirl2006, you can't assume anything, even if you both have incredible feelings for each other. I think it is a fair question to ask. If you assume you could set yourself up for a huge disappointment down the road. Just ask him where he is at right now and what he wants or you can take yogagirl's suggestion and tell him instead of asking him.
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Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: sammygrl2007
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 10:41pm

Don't assume. Ask.

Exclusivity should be a conscious decision by both parties. IMO, it's the first step to a healthy relationship.

Good luck!

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Registered: 06-03-2007
In reply to: sammygrl2007
Sun, 06-03-2007 - 3:12am
Personally, I wouldn't even ask, I would *state* because that puts me more in control.
Like "I want to be exclusive. I don't want either of us to see anybody else" and then see his response. I think direct is usually the best way to go. Saves time and then there's no room for "misinterpretations".
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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: sammygrl2007
Sun, 06-03-2007 - 12:15pm

You're dating four months and having sex - it's reasonable for health reasons if nothing else to know if he's with anyone else.

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