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| Tue, 05-01-2007 - 10:23pm |
Hi all,
I've been dating a guy for almost two months. We met through an online dating site, and then talked on the phone for almost a month before meeting.
On our second date, he told me he wasn't seeing anyone else and wanted to see where things could go with us. I'm not big on dating many people at once, and he knows I'm not seeing anyone else, either.
I've been to his house, slept over (no sex), and briefly met his parents. He meets me half way (we live an hour a part,) and he calls me almost daily to see how my day was. He's not creepy over possessive or anything like that. He respects that I'm waiting to have sex until I'm in love. He totally makes time for me but also has his hobbies and whatnot.
Do all guys specifically bring up being exclusive? It feels like we are; however, I don't want to bring up the topic to him yet. Not because I'm uncomfy with mentioning it, but just because I've been told that's something the guy should do and I don't want to infringe. I'm in no hurry, but thourougly enjoy him!
Just curious as to what you all think.
Thank you! :)
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That's what I'm wondering!!! :)
I asked him once, "when you talk about me to others, what do you say?"
And he said, "I say, '----, the gal I'm dating,' why do you ask?"
And I said, "well, people refer to things differently. I was just curious."
I'm comfy saying anything to him; however, if he hasn't "addressed it" yet, I don't want to push him. I'm kind of thinking he did?!
Thanks for your insight!
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Forgot to add that I don't want to assume anything! :P
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I'm actually in the same boat as you! I've been dating this guy for about 3 months now, and he also had mentioned that I was the only one that he was seeing, but he wanted to take it "slow" and wanted to make sure the girl he was seeing was "right" for him as he "wasn't pushing for a relationship". Well, after that comment I was seriously confused.
He had said that about a month and a half ago to me. Things have definitely changed since then as he now calls me at least twice a day, we hang out about 4 times a week, and do everything else I guess a boyfriend/girlfriend do. Well, this past weekend a guy had asked for my number that I was talking to when I went out with some friends. I told the guy I'm dating about it and he got jealous and asked why. The reason why I told him is to see what his reaction would be. (i.e. if he didn't care, then that obviously meant he wasn't serious about me). However, how am I supposed to know how to act around guys that want to date me if I don't even know where I stand in this guy's life? I think tonight I am going to ask him what he considers me as.
I would do the same thing to the guy you're seeing. They seem to say the same thing (i.e. "the girl I'm dating") Well, what exactly does that mean in a guy's mind?
Sometimes not being firm/aggressive, just questioning where you stand puts things in perspective.
Let me know how it goes if you do happen to ask him!