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| Sun, 02-19-2006 - 5:33pm |
I have a question. I went out on New Years Eve with a guy that I had met at my hair salon of all places. Our hairstylist has our appts set up back to back so we can get to know each other. I had several reservations about him. For one, he's newly divorced and has a lot of issues to deal with. I thought what would one date hurt; after all, I had never been on a date on New Years Eve or for awhile for that matter. I ended up having a good time with him. When he dropped me off he asked me if I had a good time and if I'd like to go out again and I said yes. He said he'd call me. Well weeks went by without a phone call. I saw him again at the salon about a month after that. I didn't bring up the fact that he had not called. He started talking about how busy he was and that is why he didn't call. I just said "don't you have a cellphone?" Before he left he said he'd call me. Well again weeks have gone by with no phone call. Maybe he is busy, but if a guy says he's going to call then I think he should. If he is interested then he should act like it and call. To me it makes him appear to be unreliable and not really interested. Why do men think they need to tell us they are going to call? Why can't they keep the departure short and sweet instead of sugar coating it with a bunch of lies.

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Strange... I was just talking to my friend about this tonight!
A few reasons come to mind. First, he doesn't want to hurt your feelings and doesn't know how to handle the fact that he didn't keep his word. Second, he may just be taking you for granted, thinking that you'll be around for him.
So what to do? Next time you see him, if he mentions the lack of call again, just let him know that you're not interested. Tell him you don't have the time for excuses...
Hope this helps.
Kerry
I'll see him again on Tuesday when I get my hair done. He knows that we have back to back appts. He knew that I was going to be there last time and he waited for me. I would think if he really wasn't interested he would avoid seeing me, but who knows. He has said all along that he doesn't want to get involved with anyone, but yet he asked me if I'd like to go out again. He's crazy if he thinks I'm going to wait for him.
Thanks for the advice. I'll keep it in mind the next time I see him.
Please, listen to his words. If he's telling you he doesn't want to get involved and you want something more than a casual fling, then please do not get involved with him. People usually tell you things upfront but we have a tendency of not listening and hoping for something else... Listen to those words, they speak volumes!
That's just the point, you shouldn't care.
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