Exes...In or out
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| Fri, 07-23-2004 - 9:52am |
I'm currently in the middle of a situation that I'm unsure what to do.
I dated my ex for about 6 months. Never cheated on me, very affectionate, was an overall good guy...one of the best that I had dated in my life (albeit a short list). We had a lot of fun when we were dating. His worst traits were his laziness, his depressive traits, and his lack of emotions. You see, it was like dating myself. We are a lot alike, which I finally realized and the things I hate about him are really what I hate about myself.
Well, this isn't the psych message board, but you get my point.
We have remained in contact on and off since we broke up (he broke up with me). It has been over 2 years. We see each other every couple of months. Every time we DO see each other, he get more affectionate without specifically talking about getting back together. At the end of a really fun night this week, he kissed me and told me how much he missed me then we went our separate ways. There may have been a butterfly or two waking up. We had a couple of drinks, so it wasn't the time for a deep talk or the butterflies.
I refuse to start the conversation about it because I'm not sure if it is something I want, but want to sort it out, in case I'm asked. It has been a long time, but I don't know if it's worth it to get back together with him. I'm torn and completely divided.
Here's the bottom line:
We've already been through it.
Why would I want to try it again with him if it obviously didn't work the first time.
Is it worth it? It would be nice to be with him again, but I don't know if the pros outweigh the cons. Would he just leave for no reason again? How do I trust that's not going to happen? Am I ready for another go of it? On and on...
Opinions please?
Thank you!

Could the butterflies just be cause you haven't had good attention in a while? I know I get that way when I haven't been dating for a while....