Expect too much?

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Registered: 06-09-2004
Expect too much?
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Wed, 06-09-2004 - 5:17pm
I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and a half. I see him about twice a week, which is generally late and we stay up for about an hour and go to sleep. I only get to see him about one weekend out of the month due to his sporting commitments. We don't talk everyday, when we do it is a brief conversation most of the time. I don't feel like we are at the place we should be in with our relationship. Am I overreacting or expecting too much?
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 5:37pm
Well, you are not expecting too much to want and need more from a relationship than you are currently getting. Every person wants and needs what they want and need. Your expectations after a year and a half are not extreme in my opinion. However, you may be expecting too much with THIS particular partner, b/c he is obviously not on the same page as you are in terms of relationship wants and needs. Have you talked to him about this? You should. Because if he's fine with things as they are, then you need to decide whether or not to invest any more of your precious time on this. It is just my opinion, but I think a year and a half is plenty of time to assess whether or not you're compatible with a person (ie, on the same page about all the important aspects of a relationship). And if you're not, then time will probably not change that (nor will trying make the other person feel as you do). Good luck.
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Registered: 06-09-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 7:52pm
Yes, we have talked about it several times with only minor improvements. I agree if each person is not feeling satisfied its time to move on. I really do appreciate your opinion. Thanks.
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 12:33pm
For a year and a half of dating, your expectations are not unrealistic......You cant get what you dont ask for....If youve asked, and nothing has changed, you have your answer....
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