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| Thu, 08-10-2006 - 8:41am |
So, I am the crazy girl that was on here a few weeks ago freaking out b/c a guy hadn't called in 2 days. Update: I took the plunge and called him, he called back. Said he's really busy with work (he owns a company). Asked if he wanted to get dinner Friday, said he couldn't but that I should come to one of his free lesson things going on on Tuesday or Wed. He said he'd call me before then to talk and with the details of the lesson. Well, big surprise, no call. I called him, left a message and he called back. It seems like I can only get a hold of this guy if I call him. But, here's the thing..I'm pretty much thinking hes just not that into me...but he keeps looking at my profile on Match. What is that? Any help would be MUCH appreciated!!

jmayerfan...
PG doesn't understand you at all!
Why would you want to bother seeing someone who obviously doesn't make the effort to call you or make any "dating plans" of his own?
It's clear that your agenda and his DON'T MATCH AT ALL!
Pianoguy
<< I called him, left a message and he called back. It seems like I can only get a hold of this guy if I call him.>>
What was the result when he called back? Did he give you details on the "free lesson" thing?
If he didn't attempt to make plans or inquire about YOUR status of availability when he called back, after the SECOND time that you called, I'd probably write him off as not interested. Sounds like he might be the type that's "too busy" to date regularly but isn't adverse to a "see ya when I see ya" type of thing.
The only problem with that is that if you're this type: << I am the crazy girl that was on here a few weeks ago freaking out b/c a guy hadn't called in 2 days >> ... a guy who's a "see ya when I see ya" type probably isn't going to be the guy for YOU.
That doesn't mean that "see ya when I see ya" types aren't relationship candidates. They are. My BF is proof that it CAN happen. But, you see, he wasn't that interested in a relationship when he and I met; and neither was I. We were both not that long out of previous long-term relationships. We met, enjoyed each other's company, but ... I wasn't freakin' if he didn't call, etc (that's not really my style anyway) ... honestly, we only saw each other once the first month that we met ... and didn't start seeing each other regularly (ie, once a week) until about 3 months in! We very much just took our time getting to know each other, dated casually, when time permitted, etc. Now, it's well over 2 years later and we see each other and/or talk everyday, involved in each other's lives, etc.
A relationship CAN happen with a busy or "not that interested" type ... because, oftentimes, its not that they're not interested in YOU, it's that they aren't interested in the obligation or prioritization of a relationship. However, if you are intent on forming a relationship ASAP or are not just as busy in your own right, then ... it will probably be a frustrating process, as it won't feel "natural" or normal to just let things flow and evolve at its own pace.
~~.: Sandra :.~~