expressed his feelings last night...

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expressed his feelings last night...
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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 9:52am
i talked to the boy last night and he couldnt tell me enough how bad he wants to see me, and how bad he wanted to be w/ me last night and this and that and the other thing. how much fun he has w/ me, how he daydreams about me daily...all these great things. i was shocked at first b/c i really didnt think he felt this way. but at the same time i CAN NOT get over thinking 'does he really like me, or is he just wanting me sexually'. its awful b/c i think there's potential here, and i dont want to screw it up. i feel something w/ him that i haven't felt in a while w/ anyone else so i'm hesitant to persue it but i want him bad.

i think i'm just waiting to hear him say 'i don't want us to see other people'. until then i'll be feeling/thinking like this.

what do you guys thing? have you ever been seeing/dating some guy who didnt say he wanted to be exclusive or was it always mentioned. (i'm 21, hes 25)

 

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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 10:12am
Wow! That sounds so nice to hear that stuff. I am with someone right now who didn't really come out and say it. Neither did I though. We dated for over a year before we said "love" and still didn't say that we weren't going to date other people. It was implied. We did say that we would be upset if the other one did...which again implies it...but never really came out with it.

Then again, he introduced me to friends, his kids, etc and the kids know we are going out, this and that. So, I have no worries about his actions, which is the main thing for me.

Its more to me about how he acts rather than what he says. Someone can say "Oh baby...you know I only want to be with you and no one else" and still have someone on the side. So, it is how the guy acts that gets me more than saying it. We both acted in love before we actually said it...so by the time we said it, it was like "duh!"

Unless you have something else you are worrying about with the relationship, I would go with the flow!! Took me a long time to learn to do it (I'm 27), but it is ultimately the best option!!

Hope this helps,

Jen

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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 11:34am
Hi Jen

I too am one for actions speak louder than words. I've been going through a lot in the last 2 months and he's consistently been there for me. We started talking back in May and he continuously asked me out week after week after week and I said no each time - and had some lame excuse. So finally in Oct I agreed, and I couldn't have imagined it to be any better. All these feelings are happening really quickly. I'm holding out on having sex w/ him b/c I really like him and like I said before, I don't want to screw things up. But at the same time I'm afraid of bringing up 'are you seeing anyone else' cause I dont want the answer to be yes. Nor do I want to say 'do you want to be w/ me or are you just using me for sex' (or something along those lines) cause I know how mad some guys can get at that.

When we go out he is definitely flirty w/ me. It was a week since we last talked when I decided to call him. I was beginning to think he didn't care about me anymore and when I told him that he said that's not the case at all. And that since I hadn't called him, he thought I had lost interest. He's definitely the romantic type, he would always ask me what I like, really random questions sometimes, but I'm waiting for him to SHOW me. Maybe I'm stubborn like that...maybe it's a lack of trust and uncertainity...I'm not quite sure really. Do I mention, "baby I need you to show me you want me" I think that's just a little too much at the beginning of a relationship.

 

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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 12:41pm
i just heard this on the mid-day mix show me love...i cant remember the artist its an older dance mix song from the 90's. gahhhhhh i cant remember the artist and i cant find it online. but this song is SOOO relevant