Fallen out of Love?
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Fallen out of Love?
| Wed, 06-20-2007 - 3:02pm |
Hi all, this is my first time so I hope Im doing it right!!!!
Heres my dilema...
Mike and I have been together for 2 years... When we first met we were strictly two people who hung out and had sex...This is turn developed into one of the best relationships Ive ever had. We enjoyed each others company, and totally fell in love. We have been inseperable this entire time and have been everything to each other.... except sexually. We basically have no sex life whatsoever. And I have no desire to have one with him either. When we met I was not serious about my religious beliefs which are No sex before marriage. I was young and didnt care about religion. Since then, I have moved out of my parents house, and into my own apartment. And now I AM serious about my religion. I feel it might be a conscious matter but since then all the problems have started... We recently broke up... He broke up with me. Not because of religion, but because he feels I dont love him anymore and I am not attracted to him. He said some very nasty things that made me so upset I thought I would have a nervous breakdown. I couldnt imagine my life without him....
Then it happened....
I shut down. He has apologized for saying things he didnt mean and he says he loves me and he will wait for me and wait until we get married. I have no emotion at all. I cant cry over him. I dont want to kiss him. When he comes over and wants to try to talk and work things out, I get annoyed. I cannot figure out why I feel this way. Do I love him still? Is it possible for a person to fall out of love so fast it leaves your head spinning? I dont know why I feel this way. There is really no reason for me not to love him... He is good to me, he loves me and would do anytning for me. I think of times just 2 weeks ago when I couldnt wait to kiss and hug him and now it doesnt even cross my mind.... Please Help!!!!!
Heres my dilema...
Mike and I have been together for 2 years... When we first met we were strictly two people who hung out and had sex...This is turn developed into one of the best relationships Ive ever had. We enjoyed each others company, and totally fell in love. We have been inseperable this entire time and have been everything to each other.... except sexually. We basically have no sex life whatsoever. And I have no desire to have one with him either. When we met I was not serious about my religious beliefs which are No sex before marriage. I was young and didnt care about religion. Since then, I have moved out of my parents house, and into my own apartment. And now I AM serious about my religion. I feel it might be a conscious matter but since then all the problems have started... We recently broke up... He broke up with me. Not because of religion, but because he feels I dont love him anymore and I am not attracted to him. He said some very nasty things that made me so upset I thought I would have a nervous breakdown. I couldnt imagine my life without him....
Then it happened....
I shut down. He has apologized for saying things he didnt mean and he says he loves me and he will wait for me and wait until we get married. I have no emotion at all. I cant cry over him. I dont want to kiss him. When he comes over and wants to try to talk and work things out, I get annoyed. I cannot figure out why I feel this way. Do I love him still? Is it possible for a person to fall out of love so fast it leaves your head spinning? I dont know why I feel this way. There is really no reason for me not to love him... He is good to me, he loves me and would do anytning for me. I think of times just 2 weeks ago when I couldnt wait to kiss and hug him and now it doesnt even cross my mind.... Please Help!!!!!

Thanks again!
There could be many reasons for not wanting physical closeness from him: you are hurt and have put up a wall and that wall consists of not allowing any physical closeness, your religious beliefs may be interfering, or you have fallen out of love or are not attracted to him any longer.
When some people are hurt they cannot be physically affectionate. It doesn't matter that they still love the person in their hearts, they just can't drop their guard. Or...they see their SO differently and their opinion of them has changed and he or she turns their stomachs. On the flip side, some people can still have sex with their SO even after the worst fight, and then afterwards resume arguing. If you cannot even kiss the guy then you might want to explore why that is - maybe he said such awful things that he doesn't deserve a kiss. If he almost brought you to the point of a nervous breakdown then you might want to reconsider this relationship because that is not the norm and is abusive.