Falling for my CFO boss's boss!!!!

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Falling for my CFO boss's boss!!!!
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Thu, 03-16-2006 - 4:46pm

I want to hear from all of you!! What are the pros and cons of this. Obviously i know that if it doesn't work out we will have to see one another. I have dated a guy I worked with before and it made work quite fun!!! But once I wanted to breakup with him it made it difficult to get away from the guy. I am pretty sure that he is treading very carefully. I work for a very prominent investment firm in San Francisco and yes there are tons of men in the city but no one is getting together. Everyone is in this friends with benefits situation. I really like him, and have as a person for quite some time. He is very sophisticated, unbelievably intelligent, he rides champion racing horses for pete's sake. I don't know if I am even his pedigree but all I do know is that he makes my cheeks warm when he walks by, my heart skips a beat and I haven't felt like this in over a decade about someone!!! I even dreamt about him last night, he is one of the kindest men I know...he is also a workaholic which is why I believe he hasn't settled down but I believe this one would so be worth waiting for and moving quite cautiously with. I dream about what it would be like to lay in his arms, to even make love to him...it is crazy!!!


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 5:50pm

At a realistic level I see two main concerns with your desire for this man.

1 - He is an executive with your firm. As such he is obligated to demonstrate leadership in integrity and ethics. The questions then becomes - would a relationship with a staff member compromise this leadership obligation?

2 - This one is more about you and your wants, needs and expectations. How much time and prioritization do you need in a relationship? You already know he is a workaholic. Could you honestly be happy assuming he makes no changes to his work life and commitments? Would you be expecting him to change so that you are the #1 priority in his life?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 11:45am

I have learned a lot of lessons from being with my son's father. 1) Be clear of your needs, wants and expectations in a relationship. 2.) Believe EVERYTHING a man tells you up front about his needs, wants and expectations out of a relationship. 3.) Be true to yourself and those needs.


So with that being said I know he is TREMENDOUSLY loyal to his job which makes him all the more attractive to me. It his power, his intelligence that I am attracted to NOW

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